TSM Episode 22: Sexy But Psycho: How the Patriarchy Uses Their Trauma Against Them

Welcome to Episode 22 of Triggers and Spiritual Medicine podcast with host, Laura Bonetzky-Joseph. Join us for amazing podcast episode on the topic of “Sexy But Psycho: How the Patriarchy Uses Their Trauma Against Them” with the incredibly powerful, Dr. Jessica Taylor.

Honestly after interviewing Dr. Jess, I’ve never met someone so akin to my life’s work and what my soul came here to accomplish here as a human.

For those who do not know Dr. Jess … I can’t highly recommend her and her work enough. This episode is life changing.  I rarely rarely rarely endorse anyone for good reasons. So when I do, there’s a good reason and I’d stake my reputation on it.

This talk is deep, direct, and powerful while addressing the elephant in the room, and offering 3 actionable steps folks can do today.

About Dr Jessica Taylor

Dr. Jess Taylor is a leading expert Forensic psychologist who has worked extensively with PD in SA, DV, CSA and sex trafficking cases in the UK.

She is also the Director of Victim Focus, and has authored multiple international best-selling books including:

  • “Why Women Are Blamed For Everything”
  • “Sexy But Psycho: How the Patriarchy Uses Women’s Trauma Against Them”
  • and her latest “The Trauma Impact Manual”.

She has made appearances on British television, including BBC Two documentary “Womanhood”, and in the true crime documentary “My Lover, My Killer”.

Whilst completing her undergraduate degree, she had written to professors and academics to submit her ideas and research proposals on the psychology of victim blaming of women and girls. Academics at University of Birmingham accepted her preliminary literature reviews and research proposals and offered Jessica an opportunity to study a PhD beginning in October 2015, at the age of 25.

During the PhD, Jessica explored emerging perspectives and critical approaches to understanding victim blaming. She also studied advanced psychometric theory and created the BOWSVA Scale (a validated psychometric which has the ability to measure victim blaming attitudes of women subjected to sexual violence and abuse).

It was this specialism which led Jessica to become publicly critical of psychometrics and screening tools being used with teenage girls subjected to sex trafficking and exploitation. In 2016, wrote several articles and speeches about the oppressive use of screening tools and measurements which led to widespread anger and backlash from leading services, academics and authorities. The organization Jessica worked for in senior management was targeted and told to stop her from criticizing the tools. It was this which led her to resign from a position she loved, as she didn’t want to draw negative attention to a charity she was committed to.

Jessica had a vision for an independent organization that could challenge, change and influence millions of people to understand that victim blaming, misogyny and pathologization was embedded into every system in the world, and so in April 2017, she launched VictimFocus.

In September 2018, Jessica was awarded a Fellowship of the Royal Society of Arts for her outstanding contribution to psychology and feminism.

In April 2020, Jessica released ‘Why Women Are Blamed For Everything’ in paperback by self-publishing via Lulu. With no publisher, agent or publicist, the book caused an international conversation and celebrity endorsements resulting in 10,000 copies sold in the first six weeks. With no distribution centre or logistical support, Jessica, Jaimi and Jaimi’s mum, Mandy, fulfilled tens of thousands of international orders from their dining room during the first part of COVID-19 Lockdown.

In March 2022, ‘Sexy But Psycho’ was released and went straight to Sunday Times Best Seller, entering at #5 in the national non-fiction book chart.


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ABOUT TRIGGERS & SPIRITUAL MEDICINE:

Real talk. Let’s address the elephant in the room to the growing “sickness” in our society, address root issues and provide sustainable solutions.

We hope by addressing the intersectionality and connect the dots like a web of many of society’s challenges, we can help others understand the trauma infection that impacts all areas of life – addiction, domestic violence, racism, homelessness, sexual abuse, chronic health issues, cancer, environmental issues, climate change and more. In this collaborative program, we hope to share a new perspective of solutions, healing, and resolutions.

Each episode addresses a certain trigger while offering the spiritual medicine with at least 3 tips or actionable steps our listeners can take and implement.


Please consider becoming a Patreon supporter to support our social justice initiatives https://www.patreon.com/HealingWithSpirit


Learn more about us, links to other podcasts, our books out on Amazon, social media outlets and more – Laura Healing With Spirit | Twitter, Facebook, TikTok | Linktree

TSM Episode 21: From Chaos to Power: Empowering People To Make A Difference in These Times


Welcome to Episode 21 of Triggers and Spiritual Medicine podcast with host, Laura Bonetzky-Joseph. Join us for amazing podcast episode on “From Chaos to Power: Empowering People To Make A Difference in These Times” with Brighid Murphy.

Brighid brings over 20 years experience as a solid rooted healer and activist into this deep rich conversation about real issues facing most folks today and how to navigate these challenging revolutionary times, we are in. In the end Brighid shares 3 tips on what you can do today to show up better in the world you want create and see.

ABOUT BRIGHID:

Brighid Murphy is a leading expert in transformational healing, a shamanic practitioner and teacher, and a healing catalyst. She’s a mentor and empowerment teacher for spiritual seekers and holistic healers.

Brighid created the Sacred Listening Method, facilities The Healers Collective, in-depth group immersions, and 1:1 healing experiences. She’s passionate about ceremonial healing through community and advocates for marginalized identities within the contemporary spiritual and wellness industries.

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ABOUT TRIGGERS & SPIRITUAL MEDICINE:

Real talk. Let’s address the elephant in the room to the growing “sickness” in our society, address root issues and provide sustainable solutions.

We hope by addressing the intersectionality and connect the dots like a web of many of society’s challenges, we can help others understand the trauma infection that impacts all areas of life – addiction, domestic violence, racism, homelessness, sexual abuse, chronic health issues, cancer, environmental issues, climate change and more. In this collaborative program, we hope to share a new perspective of solutions, healing, and resolutions.

Each episode addresses a certain trigger while offering the spiritual medicine with at least 3 tips or actionable steps our listeners can take and implement.


Please consider becoming a Patreon supporter to support our social justice initiatives https://www.patreon.com/HealingWithSpirit


Learn more about us, links to other podcasts, our books out on Amazon, social media outlets and more – Laura Healing With Spirit | Twitter, Facebook, TikTok | Linktree

TSM Episode #20: Seeking Clarity Through the Labyrinth, A Daughter’s Journey Through Alzheimer’s


Welcome to Episode 20 of Triggers and Spiritual Medicine podcast with host, Laura Bonetzky-Joseph. Join us for amazing podcast episode on “Seeking Clarity Through the Labyrinth, A Daughter’s Journey Through Alzheimer’s” with author, business owner, labyrinth walker and facilitator Jessica Stokes.

Jessica brings her personal experience as a caregiver and professional experience as a labyrinth walker and facilitator into this conversation about a topic that affects so many families with the debilitating disease of dementia.

We share some hard truths, the spiritual medicine through such a difficult disease, some laughs, stories, and three tips to help guide you on this path.

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ABOUT Jessica Goldmuntz Stokes

Jessica Goldmuntz Stokes is an entrepreneur at heart. She co-owns a successful cleaning business in the Denver Metro area. She believes strongly in supporting all people on their journeys, wherever they are. Always seeking her own growth and truth, she teaches and performs belly dance, and practices Therapeutic Touch and Reiki. She is a daughter, a mom, a wife, a friend, and a caregiver. She has navigated multiple family members with Alzheimer’s, dementia, and Parkinson’s disease. She is an avid labyrinth-walker, a Trained Veriditas Labyrinth Facilitator, and a published author. She provides Labyrinth workshops for anyone experiencing loss.

Seeking Clarity in the Labyrinth, A Daughter’s Journey Through Alzheimer’s is the story of my family’s way of supporting and eventually losing loved ones to Alzheimer’s. At times, it was like walking the path inside a labyrinth, we got turned around, and even lost. Yet it is also a story of how we found our way out of loss and confusion. I hope this story helps others find solace and peace. My wish for the reader is that this book will give them a sliver of strength, perhaps some clarity, and tools for healing.

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ABOUT TRIGGERS & SPIRITUAL MEDICINE PODCAST:

Real talk. Let’s address the elephant in the room to the growing “sickness” in our society, address root issues and provide sustainable solutions. We hope by addressing the intersectionality and connect the dots like a web of many of society’s challenges, we can help others understand the trauma infection that impacts all areas of life – addiction, domestic violence, racism, homelessness, sexual abuse, chronic health issues, cancer, environmental issues, climate change and more.

In this collaborative program, we hope by highlighting these infected areas and what they share in common, a new perspective of solutions, healing, and resolutions can be birthed.

Each episode addresses a certain trigger while offering the spiritual medicine with at least 3 tips or actionable steps our listeners can take and implement.

Please consider becoming a Patreon supporter to support our social justice initiatives https://www.patreon.com/HealingWithSpirit

International Women’s Day: A Personal Journey Part II

I was recently reminded about a similar post I made on 3/8/19 where I shared my journey, as well as an empowerment mantra. In light of events since then and in reflection, it feels more like I wrote that piece during a different era comparatively to where we are today. On one level feels like we slipped backwards in a time warp 50-100 years ago despite all the milestones women have made throughout history.

This year – do we celebrate, or do we organize and rise the fuck up????

So, BEFORE I share with you some yummy affirmations, I feel like we need to face some harsh truths FIRST. We cannot change what we can NOT acknowledge right?

You will have to help me, because I am not sure that women under the age of 35 really understand what is at stake. Women first gathered in 1848 to discuss the issue of gender equality. Over 170 years later, women have sought gender equality through various waves in American history.

Despite all the progress we women have made, since my last post in 2019, I have witnessed an erosion of women’s protections and rights that go beyond just the reversal of Roe.

The #1 screening to prevent cervical cancer is no longer recommended annually, but every 4-5 years and in many cases is no longer covered on insurance. I recently learned that Medicare/Medicaid is NO longer covering this unless “medically necessary”.

From child marriage laws to Missouri enacting a law that women can no longer bare their arms in government buildings to family court judges incarcerating women to silence & punish them in domestic violence cases involving custody to judges legally trafficking children to either their rapists or abusers or to a cottage industry of parental alienation 4-day camps where children literally disappear with NO outside contact with the world or school or doctors etc for 100+ days or longer and more.

Then lets NOT forget the vile mass mob mentality of deliberately set out to harm Amber Heard that was originally orchestrated by Johnny Depp who PAID millions BEFORE his trial to gain influences to launch a “global humiliation” and destruction of his victim, Amber Heard.

Finally, we have the toxic vile abusive influencers like Andrew Tate who admittedly sexually trafficking & enslaving women and encouraging YOUNG boys and men to BE like him.

It is actually quite refreshing to see professionals like Dr. Jessica Taylor , psychologist & speaker, take on the toxic misogynistic culture we STILL live in from a psychology standpoint of both the Andrew Tate situation and Amber Heard. She is also the author of “Sexy but psycho: HOW THE PATRIARCHY USES WOMEN’S TRAUMA AGAINST THEM”.

We are at a crossroads, as we chatted about in the Triggers and Spiritual Medicine Podcast Episode 5 “How The Burning Times of Witches Influence White Women Culture Today From The Eyes of A Breast Cancer Survivor”

Women who say … “yeah but” – need to seriously pause a bit and see what they are really endorsing. I recently saw a self-proclaimed domestic violence advocate (not connected to any nonprofits), who said the “yeah but” to Alex Murdaugh being found guilty of murdering his son and wife claiming he was set up.

Anyone who truly understands the dynamics of domestic violence, narcissism, coercive control, AND his entire familial history, would NOT be saying “yeah but” unless they still have some serious unpacking to do still. You cannot advocate for victims of abuse and say this man with his history is innocent.

Many of you know that I believe that in order to FULLY heal trauma, you must address root issues and systems. I also believe that as a multi-generational healer & intuitive and spiritual teacher, we cannot fully help others heal without doing our own inner work – this includes unpacking patriarchal & colonialist ideologies – and without doing sacred activism. They do go hand in hand in my option and to many well-intentioned folks, bypass these necessary steps.

So, here is the deal – Both Trump & Biden – BOTH political parties – have been BLOCKING the 28th Amendment to the US Constitution (Us Archives)- The Equal Rights Amendment (dif link)- that would guarantee equality of women to men.

So when I originally wrote my 2019 post, I was going thru lots of growing pains & was on the verge of a major breakthrough … the kind I’ve waited a lifetime for if not multiple lifetimes … that was halted when the pandemic shutdown commenced, and the onslaught began – medically, systemically, politically, and legally.

NOW – if we choose – we can be the lotus flower rising from the darkness.

Despite the obstacles and setbacks, we do have opportunity here. We must remember that we do NOT grow during the party or celebrations. We grow in the darkness like the lotus flower or any seed you wish to plant.

Despite my own setbacks over the past four years, I published not one, but two books last year, on top of my healing work & professional practice:

Currently, I am a part of a statewide domestic violence task force, and Massachusetts has numerous bills pending involving coercive control, abusive litigation, and making cutting off a GPS bracelet a felony. I am waiting to see if the language supports victims in a way that abusers are unable to weaponize them against their victims or targets, because on the flip side, MA is currently trying to build a $50 million prison. I am using my sacred activism and voice to ensure that does NOT happen and we become FREER and safer from abuse.

Check out Families for Justice as Healing and their efforts to prevent this building of a women’s prison. I wrote about my incarceration story in the book Feisty on how I was sentenced for 30days plus 6mo of criminal court community service (my regular 12-15hrs a week community services to victims of domestic violence was prohibited) by a family court judge who also denied my right to an attorney and to medical care for $400 in holding by D.O.R. While incarcerated, I learned about how many women turned to substance abuse to cope with the trauma inflicted by the courts failing to protect victims of abuse AND that approximately 15-20% were sent there by family court judges as a way to silence them.

In January, I shared the 2022 in Review & 2023 Psychic Spirit Energy Forecast in episode 17 of Triggers and Spiritual Medicine Podcast where I talk about these changing times and how to navigate these ever-intensifying energetic shifts – that do impact the daily life, politics, laws, governing, social justice etc.

In the Secrets to Healing book, I wrote an extended version of the “Embracing the Dragon Within” that I wrote originally in 2018. NOW is the time to call in the energies of the dragon.

Dragons have been a huge part of my life and over the past few years, their energy and connection to me has grown stronger.  If we want to make the kinds of changes we want and need to make, we must look at ALL facets including the spiritual realms.

The reason why so-called extremist groups use tactics such as race or religion to incite division, fear, and control to disempower and enslave their followers, is because their narcissistic abusive methods of power are threatened.

Women are more educated now. Or are we?

Have you ever wondered why women do not support each other – especially white women? Especially in business and careers? Instead, we often feel envy, jealousy, or judgement?

Have you ever wondered why women are so darn critical of other women? Like where does this stuff really come from?

Have you ever wondered why women feel an instinctual need to compete against each other, but you do not know where it is rooted or why if we are hard wired to be in community and support of each other?

Have you ever wondered where the ideology of women serving the man ever came from?

I ask you to tune in to THIS very thought-provoking amazing podcast episode as we shed the beliefs systems, we’ve been conditioned to believe that runs through our very DNA over hundreds of years.

I will add … this episode may be triggering for some who are not ready to dive deep into the root issues many of us women – especially white women are experiencing and WHY we keep repeating cycles that do not serve us OR repeating cycles that serve us in a way that still keeps us chained to the patriarchal expectations.

Do not be seduced by the systemic patriarchal misogynistic ways or their toxic agendas that target your fears and vulnerabilities.

Alone we are strong. However, together we are stronger.

Together, we rise.

Together, we are unstoppable.

But do you believe that? Really?

Let’s bare witness to the transformation and magic of dragon within in the depths of our souls.

Today I celebrate ALL OF ME and all the brave courageous strong women before me.

I celebrate the wisdom of my ancestors breathing and pulsating in my veins.

I celebrate all the badass women and men who have guided me, supported me, journeyed with me, and mentored me throughout the years.

Thank you.

I am dragon.

I am the divine feminine.

I am the fire, water, air, and earth in the womb.

I am woman. 

I am ME.

Together we rise. Together we are unstoppable.

Let’s do this shall we???

Happy International Women’s Day 3/8/23

With appreciation,
Laura

TSM Episode #19: Rethinking Our Space: Resizing For Bigger Living


Welcome to Episode 19 of Triggers and Spiritual Medicine podcast with host, Laura Bonetzky-Joseph. Join us for amazing podcast episode on “Rethinking Our Space: Resizing For Bigger Living” with author & multi-vocational woman, Judy Granlee Gates.

Judy brings a different lens to the conversation about how we live in our homes and helps us to reframe how we view our space after 34 years in the residential construction industry. She helps us to create more space by rethinking how we relate to our space and re-sizing.


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ABOUT JUDY:

A fourth-generation small business owner and multi vocational woman, Judy Granlee-Gates has worked in Residential Construction for 34 years and strives for continual improvement in her processes. She is a driven problem solver and uses her organizational skills to benefit her customer’s experience. An award-winning custom home builder and remodeler, dozens of her projects have been recognized on local, state and national levels and her company received a Pacesetter Award from Custom Home Magazine for outstanding customer experience. Judy utilizes her degree in Education, Training and Development to take her customers through the homebuilding and remodeling process with confidence, fun and outstanding results. Her first Job was decluttering the supply are of her mom’s busy hair salon at the age of 7 and she is decluttering for herself and others to this day.

Judy released Bigger Living, Smaller Space; Resizing for a Clean and Cozy Home on 1/31/23. Her book focuses on the challenges clutter brings to our lives and how to solve it, room by room, or the entire home. She takes great joy in figuring out ways to repurpose sentimental family items that are part to part with. She helps you resize your current home, and explain what to consider if you are considering going smaller. Judy is an advocate of smaller living without sacrifice.

She is a construction industry blogger, owns a successful and popular Vacation Home Rental in Central Washington, avid note writer and sender, an active philanthropist, and artist. Judy is the parent of a grown “singleton” and lives in Washington State with her husband and pets.

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Clutter and anxiety: https://www.mother.ly/home/its-science-clutter-can-actually-give-you-anxiety/


ABOUT TRIGGERS & SPIRITUAL MEDICINE PODCAST:

Real talk. Let’s address the elephant in the room to the growing “sickness” in our society, address root issues and provide sustainable solutions. We hope by addressing the intersectionality and connect the dots like a web of many of society’s challenges, we can help others understand the trauma infection that impacts all areas of life – addiction, domestic violence, racism, homelessness, sexual abuse, chronic health issues, cancer, environmental issues, climate change and more.

In this NEW collaborative program, we hope by highlighting these infected areas and what they share in common, a new perspective of solutions, healing, and resolutions can be birthed. Each episode addresses a certain trigger while offering the spiritual medicine with at least 3 tips or actionable steps our listeners can take and implement.

Please consider becoming a Patreon supporter to support our social justice initiatives https://www.patreon.com/HealingWithSpirit

Episode #18: From Multi-Generational Abuse & Domestic Violence to Women’s Empowerment & The SheIsMeConference

Welcome to Episode 18 of Triggers and Spiritual Medicine podcast with host, Laura Bonetzky-Joseph.

Join us for amazing raw empowering podcast episode on “From Multi-Generational Abuse & Domestic Violence to Women’s Empowerment & The SheIsMeConference” with Lisa Jimenez, Survivor of domestic violence & Founder of SheIsMeConference and Creative Life Happy Soul.

This episode goes deep. We talk about the following:

  • How we look for “the familiar”
  • When a 7yo asked the parents to divorce
  • What is taught. Why we stay.  Walking on eggshells
  • That switch that went off where her ex tried to kill her in front of her children.
  • How family, courts, and society rallied to help support her abuser in prison. Yet, she was left to fend for herself and her children.
  • The impacts of a failed system on the children.
  • Why the ERA – Equal Rights Amendment needs to be published to grant women equal rights to men under the constitution.
  • Why are men doing this?
  • The impacts of Andrew Tate, Amber Heard, Ana Walshe
  • How to support survivors
  • The failures of psychotherapists and how harm was perpetuated.
  • How a family court custody judge gave an attempted murderer 50/50 custody.
  • The police who refused to remove the guns from the home.
  • … To how Lisa began volunteering in women’s groups in a domestic violence shelter.
  • To meeting other women and gathering in community.
  • To unpacking the pain, trauma, and conditions placed upon her.
  • To creating programs, groups, conferences for women.

This conversation is deep, rich, and empowering.

ABOUT LISA JO JIMENEZ:

Lisa Jo Jimenez is the founder and CEO of The SheisMe Conference and Creative Life Happy Soul. Lisa is an art therapist, empowerment coach, professional artist and lightworker.

Her mission: To help women uncover their gifts, believe in themselves, and live the life they were meant to live. No excuses. No apologies.

It is Lisa’s life’s work as a healer, creator and transformational coach, to help all women that she attracts to realize their magic, to stand strong in themselves, and to live their most authentic and abundant life.

Her work in creating the SheisMe Conference expands her role in women’s empowerment and her platform gives women around the world the opportunity to teach, empower and inspire with the goal of making sure no woman ever feel alone.

You may find Lisa at www.sheismeconference.com or at Creative Life Happy Soul – Live Your Best Life


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ABOUT TRIGGERS & SPIRITUAL MEDICINE PODCAST:

Real talk. Let’s address the elephant in the room to the growing “sickness” in our society, address root issues and provide sustainable solutions.

We hope by addressing the intersectionality and connect the dots like a web of many of society’s challenges, we can help others understand the trauma infection that impacts all areas of life – addiction, domestic violence, racism, homelessness, sexual abuse, chronic health issues, cancer, environmental issues, climate change and more.

In this NEW collaborative program, we hope by highlighting these infected areas and what they share in common, a new perspective of solutions, healing, and resolutions can be birthed.

Each episode addresses a certain trigger while offering the spiritual medicine with at least 3 tips or actionable steps our listeners can take and implement.

Vision: To break the unrecognized endemic of unresolved unhealed trauma & create sustainable systems for recovery, healing & empowerment.

Mission: To help others rediscover the power that lies within and to find that treasure buried in the depths of the shadows. To help them become their own superhero.

Please consider becoming a Patreon supporter to support our social justice initiatives https://www.patreon.com/HealingWithSpirit

Episode #17: 2022 in Review & 2023 Psychic Spirit Energy Forecast

Welcome to Season 2 Episode 17 of Triggers and Spiritual Medicine podcast with host, Laura Bonetzky-Joseph. In this episode, we decided to do an energy forecast for the 2023 year with three key takeaways in the end.

  • 2022 in Review
  • What did we learn & how are we moving forward
  • 2023 Numerology
  • 2023 Energies
  • Tarot Card Energies
  • Power of Crow/Raven Magic
  • Three in numerology
  • “0” in numerology
  • Surrender the Ego
  • Plus 3 Key takeaways


ABOUT TRIGGERS & SPIRITUAL MEDICINE PODCAST:

Real talk. Let’s address the elephant in the room to the growing “sickness” in our society, address root issues and provide sustainable solutions.

We hope by addressing the intersectionality and connect the dots like a web of many of society’s challenges, we can help others understand the trauma infection that impacts all areas of life – addiction, domestic violence, racism, homelessness, sexual abuse, chronic health issues, cancer, environmental issues, climate change and more.

In this NEW collaborative program, we hope by highlighting these infected areas and what they share in common, a new perspective of solutions, healing, and resolutions can be birthed.

Each episode addresses a certain trigger while offering the spiritual medicine with at least 3 tips or actionable steps our listeners can take and implement.

Vision: To break the unrecognized endemic of unresolved unhealed trauma & create sustainable systems for recovery, healing & empowerment.

Mission: To help others rediscover the power that lies within and to find that treasure buried in the depths of the shadows. To help them become their own superhero.

Please consider becoming a Patreon supporter to support our social justice initiatives https://www.patreon.com/HealingWithSpirit

Episode #16: A Multicultural Guide to Unf**k Yourself Back To Self

Welcome to Episode 16 of Triggers and Spiritual Medicine podcast with host, Laura Bonetzky-Joseph. Join us for amazing podcast episode on “A Multicultural Guide to Unf**k Yourself Back To Self”  with Frank “Arjava” Petter, Author of 15 books, International Reiki Historian, Spiritual Teacher, and Vice Representative of The Jikiden Reiki Institute, Kyoto, Japan.

Arjava shares his story growing up in Germany. How he grew up with Buddhism in his life & homeopathy with the understanding that healing is innate in us all. Weaved in this journey, is Arjava’s natural gift of writing and a mode of healing and guiding others.

He shares how leaving his home country during civil unrest as a teenager changed his life when he left to “rescue” his brother from a “cult” in India only to find his path. Here is where his life changed forever.

Arjava shares how he lived with Osho for 6 years in India to discovering Reiki. His NOT so good initial experience with Reiki to how his “soul gets tickled” that changed his life. His journey into finding a teacher “suitable” to teach him Reiki in Japan to now living on a beautiful island in Greece.

Being a spiritual teacher who traveled the world to the pandemic shutdown that put him out of work and his journey back to self through writing where he published 5 books during the pandemic.

In this episode, Arjava shares THREE tips to lessen the pain and transform back to self.

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ABOUT TRIGGERS & SPIRITUAL MEDICINE PODCAST:

Real talk. Let’s address the elephant in the room to the growing “sickness” in our society, address root issues and provide sustainable solutions.
We hope by addressing the intersectionality and connect the dots like a web of many of society’s challenges, we can help others understand the trauma infection that impacts all areas of life – addiction, domestic violence, racism, homelessness, sexual abuse, chronic health issues, cancer, environmental issues, climate change and more.
In this NEW collaborative program, we hope by highlighting these infected areas and what they share in common, a new perspective of solutions, healing, and resolutions can be birthed.
Each episode addresses a certain trigger while offering the spiritual medicine with at least 3 tips or actionable steps our listeners can take and implement.
Vision: To break the unrecognized endemic of unresolved unhealed trauma & create sustainable systems for recovery, healing & empowerment.
Mission: To help others rediscover the power that lies within and to find that treasure buried in the depths of the shadows. To help them become their own superhero.
Please consider becoming a Patreon supporter to support our social justice initiatives https://www.patreon.com/HealingWithSpirit

Episode 15: Writing and/or Publishing Your Story As Healing & Making Impact

Welcome to Episode 15 of Triggers and Spiritual Medicine podcast with host, Laura Bonetzky-Joseph. Join us for amazing podcast episode on “Writing and/or Publishing Your Story As Healing & Impact “ with Sierra Melcher, Founder of Red Thread Publishing.

Sierra shares her story of being silenced and how writing was her medicine that led her to create the all women run publishing company, Red Thread Publishing.  Sierra shares the common struggles that trigger adverse responses when writing a book and how to move through the flows. She also shares 3 actionable tips folks can do NOW whether one is looking to write as a form of healing practice or whether to write as an author.

ABOUT SIERRA:

Best-selling author, international speaker & educator, Sierra Melcher is founder of Red Thread Publishing LLC. She leads an all-female publishing company, with a mission to support 10,000 women to become successful published authors & thought-leaders. Offering world-class coaching & courses that focus on community, collaboration, and a uniquely feminine approach at every stage of the author process.

Sierra has a Master’s degree in education, has spoken & taught around the world. Originally from the United States, Sierra lives in Medellin, Colombia with her young daughter.

linktr.ee/redthreadpublishing

Instagram: www.instagram.com/redthreadbooks

Red Thread Writer’s Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/redthreadwriters

Blog: redthreadbooks.mykajabi.com/blog/bookschangetheworld


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ABOUT TRIGGERS & SPIRITUAL MEDICINE PODCAST:

Real talk. Let’s address the elephant in the room to the growing “sickness” in our society, address root issues and provide sustainable solutions.
We hope by addressing the intersectionality and connect the dots like a web of many of society’s challenges, we can help others understand the trauma infection that impacts all areas of life – addiction, domestic violence, racism, homelessness, sexual abuse, chronic health issues, cancer, environmental issues, climate change and more.
In this NEW collaborative program, we hope by highlighting these infected areas and what they share in common, a new perspective of solutions, healing, and resolutions can be birthed.
Each episode addresses a certain trigger while offering the spiritual medicine with at least 3 tips or actionable steps our listeners can take and implement.
Vision: To break the unrecognized endemic of unresolved unhealed trauma & create sustainable systems for recovery, healing & empowerment.
Mission: To help others rediscover the power that lies within and to find that treasure buried in the depths of the shadows. To help them become their own superhero.
Please consider becoming a Patreon supporter to support our social justice initiatives https://www.patreon.com/HealingWithSpirit

Why Can’t Americans Heal From Trauma & Chronic Illness?


By Adrienne MacIain, Ph.D.


“Americans are becoming increasingly bankrupt–mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually–but it doesn’t have to be that way.” Laura Bonetzky-Joseph, author of The Secrets to Healing (click)


In Japan, the energy-healing practice of Reiki has been reported to heal everything from major illnesses like Cancer and autoimmune disease to mystery ailments like chronic fatigue, anxiety, depression, and stress. So why aren’t we seeing these same results in the U.S.?

Laura Bonetzky-Joseph, author of The Secrets to Healing: An Invitation to Healing The ROOTS to Chronic Illness and Trauma Through the Japanese Reiki Gokai (click), which just hit bookshelves this week, believes she has found the answer. 

As an experienced healer, multi-generational intuitive, speaker, podcaster, seeker, spiritual mentor, Jikiden Reiki® Shihan (teacher), social justice warrior, and a survivor of domestic violence, sexual assault, and litigation abuse, Joseph knows first-hand both the destructive power of trauma, and the healing power of Reiki when properly understood and utilized.

“Unresolved trauma is an unrecognized epidemic that many times is the root cause for issues such as chronic illness, cancer, pain, autoimmune disorders, and anxiety,” says Bonetzky-Joseph, “Over a number of years, I suffered from more than one of these conditions, until I discovered a better way to eliminate them from my life.” 

Laura’s journey to healing began when she started looking into aspects of her issues that the healthcare system couldn’t figure out. “For over 14 years,” she says, “I systematically implemented a spiritually based, holistic approach to my healing that literally saved my life—in ways that you might say defy all logic.”

There is a method, however, to this medical mayhem.

“There is a direct connection between stress and illness,” explains Bonetzky-Joseph. “Medical research has repeatedly shown us over time that two-thirds of all visits to family physicians are due to stress-related symptoms. This has worsened since the recent pandemic. Many people feel they are spinning their wheels, not getting better & searching for answers with no feeling of end in sight, spending a fortune on medical care that is bankrupting Americans at alarming rates, with symptoms getting worse in some cases.” 

That’s why she wrote this book. Because it doesn’t have to be that way.

“When we address the ROOT systems including the capitalism of ‘disease’ that is a traded commodity on Wall Street, we can learn NEW ways of accessing healing, recovery, empowerment, and become our own superheroes,” Bonetzky-Joseph reassures.

“In this book, I share with you my half a century long journey, the Japanese teachings I have learned along the way, Reiki stories, and why this powerful medicine, often not prized in a monetized culture, might be exactly what you are seeking.”

It is Laura’s hope that by addressing the capitalist healthcare system, the root issues of chronic illness and disease, that folks will not only find inspiration in these pages, but some healing, practical actionable steps, and reprieve. 

Weaving her own personal lived experience AND professional learned experience together, Joseph has created something that is vitally missing in our society, and more specifically in the Reiki industry, spiritual communities, and trauma fields. The Secrets to Healing is intended as a bridge between those gaps. 

“My work addresses the unspoken, untapped, challenges and pathways to reclaim our health, vitality and power,” explains Bonetzky-Joseph, “I am someone who has walked this path, trained with credible teachers and shared my work with others.”

The Secrets to Healing is an invitation back to self – an unpacking of our colonized mindsets that is blinding us from becoming our own superheroes of our story and reclaiming our life, health, vitality through the spiritual medicine of the traditional Japanese system of Reiki.

For folks struggling with cancer or chronic illness, this book may hold the answers to restoring wholeness that may be missing in their current care, yet is complementary to existing care. 

For folks who are survivors of domestic violence or sexual assault, this book may hold the answers to how to break the repetitive cycle of abuse and trauma, offer sustainable methods to heal the trauma manifesting as illness, or offer tools on how to present yourself more effectively when dealing with custody courts. 

For Reiki teachers, this book is a must-have resource book for every Reiki certification.

Laura Bonetzky-Joseph is here to help folks who suffer from a history of chronic illness, cancer, trauma, and/or abuse to address root issues, transform pain, bridge science, research and the practical magic so that they can experience sustainable healing and wholeness by rediscovering the body’s ability to heal itself and the power that lies within so that they can become their own superhero. Since 2006, she has helped thousands of people heal issues and restore wholeness – personally, mentally, physically, spiritually, professionally. 

Bonetzky-Joseph’s mission is to help others rediscover the power that lies within and become their own superhero by addressing root issues, transforming pain, bridging science, research and the practical magic of sacred, ancient traditions… with honor and integrity. She does this while also advocating for holistic health, domestic violence survivors, and policy changes. She is a bridge between the amazing modern advances of modern medicine with the ancient ways of healing and empowerment through rooted sacred spiritual practices. 

And Joseph practices everything she preaches. Even in the writing and publishing of this book, Bonetzky-Joseph has had to make use of her Reiki training.

“I have struggled with a lot of fear, writing this book,” she admits, “fear and anxiety surrounding all the lack aspects – lack of being seen, heard, and understood. Fear of retaliation for speaking my truth, of having my voice silenced once again. I had to put the teachings I preach to use to address my anxiety and fears of lack. I upped my own self-care strategies, put a team in place to support me (mentally, physically, and spiritually) who clearly understand my triggers and my somatic perpetuation of wanting to flee and go back into hiding again.”

But fear is far from the only obstacle she’s faced in the process of getting this book out into the world. “I have had to overcome the multitask of end-of-life care and subsequent passing of both my parents while also running my business, dealing with toxic family structures, moving, closing my father’s business and estate, and maintaining a healthy life work balance,” says Bonetzky-Joseph. 

“Triggers and CPTSD (Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) can be a beast, and can show up unannounced at any time. There is something strange that happens when the body reacts differently than the mind, like a two-year-old having a temper tantrum in the middle of the grocery store line. I have had to give myself grace when needed. I have had to push myself when it was needed. I have had to check myself on how much I am living what I am preaching and especially on the last precept – Do your duties fully – and contemplating on what that looks like in completing this book,” Bonetzky-Joseph confesses, “I have had to remind myself that if I want folks to believe in me, I need to believe in me better and stronger. I must believe in the medicine I offer more convincingly.”

Bonetzky-Joseph believes it is her extensive, intersectional training and dedicated practice that have allowed her to thrive and reach her goals despite the obstacles she’s had to overcome. And she wants these same results to be available to everyone.

“I believe in a world where universal balance is restored. When we can understand the intricate nature and power of the universe resides within us, we can restore our own innate healing and power. With that knowledge and understanding comes stewardship, great personal responsibility, and understanding that the balance of ALL life is needed for us as humans to become fully whole on a planet that sustains us.”

“If you can heal trauma,” Bonetzky-Joseph reassures, “you can heal anything.” 

Joseph offers spiritually-based integrative holistic health enrichment private sessions, workshops, groups, retreats, and guest appearances at our location or yours.


Here’s what her clients have to say:

“Laura Joseph, what can I say?? She’s just Awsum! She helped me in soooo many ways, from spiritual & emotional healing, I’ve been to her retreats (omg, life changing!), I’ve had sound healings, mediumship readings, reiki session, empath workshop, & even had training to practice Jikiden Reiki! There’s not much this girl hasn’t done! Not only has it been great to be a client, but I am especially grateful for the friendship & kinship that has developed from that as well!”  – Monica McCall

“Laura is truly one of a kind. Her knowledge and experiences she shared only enhanced my learning throughout the seminar. I look forward to practicing and evolving under her guidance as I take this incredible journey as someone who can now begin to give Jikiden Reiki. Thank you, Laura!”  – Maribel Carubia, Jikiden Reiki Training (click)

“I highly recommend it for anyone being told they’re ‘too sensitive,’ weighed down by their emotions or their environment, or feel as though they don’t fit in. Laura is excellent at what she does and she has knowledge, compassion, insight and understanding that is truly unmatched.” – Debbie Gillis

“It can be challenging to open up, be vulnerable in a group. The class felt safe & nurturing & it became increasingly easier to share personal experiences.”  – Jeannine Whitehead

“Without the help I have received here I do not know where I would be today or who I would be.”  – James Fennessy


To learn more or book a session, please go to: https://linktr.ee/HealingWithSpirit (click)

“Relax, your soul has your back.” – Laura Boneztky-Joseph