In this episode, Flow Rising sat down with intuitive healer, Laura Bonetzky Joseph to talk about the types of mindset and mechanics which get in the way for people when they travel down a path of healing from trauma.
In 2022, Laura published two books. She’s the co-author of “Feisty: Dangerously Amazing Women Using Their Voices to Make an Impact”. Her chapter, “#MeTooFamilyCourts”, highlights what it takes to leave a domestic violence relationship in a broken system that punishes you. Her first solo book, “The Secrets To Healing: An Invitation To Healing Trauma And Other Root Causes of Chronic Illness Using the Japanese Reiki Gokai” weaves her personal story, her work, the science, and the teachings with nine client case studies.
Laura currently sits on the Massachusetts T.R.A.C. coalition addressing legislation and policy for survivors of abuse. Laura brings an authentic unique view with a unique talent and skill sets uncommon today. Laura’s podcast, “Triggers and Spiritual Medicine,” can be found on YouTube, her website, and most podcast streaming platforms.
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Welcome to Episode #5 of Triggers & Spiritual Medicine Podcast with our Guest Rae Carter of EmpowR
Topic:How The Burning Times of Witches Influence White Women Culture From The Eyes of A Breast Cancer Survivor
In this episode Rae shares her breast cancer journey and what it is like to heal the root issues both within herself and as a society as she continued to deepen her healing and recovery. The deeper she went, the more she discovered.
What she discovered along the way is short of inspiring, it is eye opening with that Ah-ha moment of like “Oh crap, so this is where everything is rooted”.
Have you ever wondered why women do not support each other – especially white women? Especially in business and careers? Instead, we often feel envy, jealousy, or judgement?
Have you ever wondered why women are so darn critical of other women? Like where does this stuff really come from?
Have you ever wondered why women feel an instinctual need to compete against each other, but you do not know where it is rooted or why if we are hard wired to be in community and support of each other?
Have you ever wondered where the ideology of women serving the man ever came from?
I ask you to tune in to THIS very thought-provoking amazing episode as we shed the beliefs systems, we’ve been conditioned to believe that runs through our very DNA over hundreds of years.
I will add this episode may be triggering for some who are not ready to dive deep into the root issues many of us women – especially white women are experiencing and WHY we keep repeating cycles that do not serve us OR repeating cycles that serve us in a way that still keeps us chained to the patriarchal expectations.
This is sure to be a POWERFUL episode, and, in the end, Rae’s offers 3 things you can do today to make a shift.
ABOUT RAE:
Rae Carter (she/her) is a dialogue facilitator, culture builder, communication strategist, healing navigator, and intuitive arts practitioner. She cultivates community and creates opportunities for vulnerable connection, courageous conversations, individual wholeness, and collective healing. She works at the intersection of health, communication, culture change, and consciousness.
Inspired by her personal experience navigating cancer and trauma, her career background in communications, and training in holistic health, Rae facilitates a nurturing, intuitive, and feminine approach to healing. She specializes in holistic wellness—the interconnectedness of the physical body, emotional and mental health, spirituality and belief systems, interpersonal relationships, and awakening consciousness as ALL interdependent to influence our well-being. Rae integrated her career background in communications, organizational development, human behavior, and social change with training in holistic health and intuitive healing practices sparked by her health crisis. Her deep exploration into trauma and ancestral healing as she navigated allopathic, naturopathic, and spiritual medicines catalyzed her personal transformation and revealed a vision for connecting personal and cultural healing.
Rae embodies her life purpose as one small player in the shared work to heal the heart of humanity. She catalyzes movement towards this vision as the founding co-creator of EmpowR, a container for personal, organizational, and cultural transformation accountable to transformative justice and emergent strategy principles. Rae approaches transformative justice with a deep empathy and understanding of the vast and varied entry points for change. In her work with EmpowR she nourishes a growing community of change makers co-creating cultures of empathy, healing, community, and accountability centered in equity and belonging. EmpowR facilitates connection between personal and cultural transformation with sessions for individuals, services for organizations, and educational programs and events.
Rae lives in Plainfield, Vermont with her partner and animals where they grow organic and wildcrafted medicinal herbs and steward Grandmother Cherry Sanctuary, a forest sanctuary for healing, change making, and land-based EmpowR events. WEBSITE: https://empowr-transformation.com/
Vision: To break the unrecognized endemic of unresolved unhealed trauma & create sustainable systems for recovery, healing & empowerment.
Mission: To help others rediscover the power that lies within and to find that treasure buried in the depths of the shadows. To help them become their own superhero.
We hope by helping you connect the dots like a web, we can help others understand the trauma infection that impacts all areas of life – addiction, domestic violence, racism, homelessness, sexual abuse, chronic health issues, cancer, environmental issues, climate change and more.
We hope by highlighting these infected areas and what they share in common, a new perspective of solutions, healing, and resolutions can be birthed.
This is a NEW collaborative program with industry experts, survivors, who have figured out the “how” to heal the effects from their trauma breaking FREE from the chains that bound them in ways society said was not possible.
We’ll feature a different guest w/ each episode sharing experiences & solutions w/ the greatest epidemic of our times world – an epidemic of unrecognized unhealed unresolved trauma that is placing misguided burdens on our society, increasing rates of chronic illness, mental illness, & addictions & stressing an already taxed broken healthcare system ill-equipped to treat root issues because it is NOT profitable.
I am so grateful to have been interviewed on the Red Thread Publishing podcast with Sierra Mulcher talking about the writing process for Feisty, the challenges I had, what it means to me and my chapter on a topic many folks do not know happens to victims of domestic violence with faced with family court.
My chapter is titled: #MeTooFamilyCourts – Sometimes, the Truth is Stranger Than Fiction.
This is a short interview.
Click below to watch or listen in for this little gem of an interview.
How to Shine Without Shame in a World That Wants to Silence You
If you’re ready to rewrite all the rules and start thriving, just as you are, then Feisty is a must-read!
WARNING: This book is not for everybody. Well-behaved women rarely make history, so, check your good-girl card at the door. There is something even better waiting on the other side, if you dare venture.
Stories to inspire you to new heights of bravery, new depths of vulnerability, and new dimensions of femininity.
What does it mean to be feisty?
This collection of true tales of resistance and persistence in the face of historical oppression from cycle-breaking writers of all walks of life will defy your expectations, validate your experiences, and rally your inner warrior-woman.
Not only that, this book also teaches you how to:
Identify and share your own feisty flickers and acts of brave badassery
Release the “shoulds” and embrace your true desires
My story is finally being published as a chapter in THIS NEW inspirational powerful collaborative book of powerful stories of women from all over the world.
The Title of My Chapter:
“#MeTooFamilyCourts: Reality Is Stranger Than Fiction”
In this chapter, I shared my story of what it’s like to leave a domestic violence relationship only to have the abuse escalate AFTER I left spending the next 16 years vying for my freedom from abuse.
I share how I was incarcerated WITHOUT being charged or convicted of any crime while also being DENIED my right to a lawyer to represent me.
I share my journey, struggles and recovery that led to where I am today and the work I do today professionally as a result.
I’m not gonna lie or sugarcoat this.
I am scared.
I am frightened.
I am anxious.
… BECAUSE my fears of retaliation are REAL … cuz they happened before as I write about in this chapter (which was very triggering yet empowering for me at the same time).
As of this past fall 2021, the escalation of my abusive ex to use the courts to harass, control and abuse with impunity have once again escalated making me wonder if I will ever be free. I am praying this new judge is able to see it for what it is and finally puts an end to all the abuse and grants my freedom.
Why I Wrote This Chapter
I was asked to contribute to this amazing international collaborative book of powerful women with incredible stories.
This chapter started out as a way to share my story and the trauma I endured, how I moved forward, how I became empowered, how I wanted to use my story to inspire other survivors of abuse to NEVER GIVE UP. This was to be a lead in for the upcoming book I have been writing for almost 10 years now on healing the roots to chronic illness and trauma through a Japanese healing system.
I wanted to share one of the most traumatizing experiences of my life that the father of my children wanted to perpetuate repeated and relentless harm in hope to kill me while keeping his hands clean (as one police chief told me once) in hopes it helps someone else who might feel stuck, hopeless, disempowered by a broken system that may have failed them too.
The allowance of court abuse on survivors over 10 years AFTER leaving the abusive marriage ultimately led to my diagnosis of complex post-traumatic stress disorder that led to a host of physical health issues.
I intended this story to be shared in hopes someday, my children will know what I have had to go through to escape domestic violence in hopes to protect them (and failed) and that I NEVER gave up on them despite the maternal deprivation and trauma bonding they fell prey to.
However, after the actions taken by my abusive ex this past fall to resume his patterns of abuse in the court system, this chapter has become my plea for justice and freedom from abuse while offering FIVE tips on how to support survivors so we may break the cycles of unrecognized unhealed unresolved trauma that is plaguing humanity in a grand scale.
Please consider supporting THIS BOOK.
Support my story… Support my freedom by purchasing this book.
Support ALL survivors’ rights to be free from abuse by purchasing this book.
Support all the amazing women from all over the world I’ve had the privilege to share space within this book.
Thank you to Sierra of Red Thread Publishing for your vision to bring these
#Feisty stories to publication.
The courage to solidify my publishing team, complete the edits & publish my FIRST solo book despite all the threats I’m currently faced with. Projected release is slated for Spring 2022.
This book is about my story of healing the broken me, the prevalence of unaddressed, unhealed, unresolved trauma, and what to do about it, what is Jikiden Reiki, how can it help heal chronic illness, pain and trauma.
What is shared in this book is worth the weight in gold to anyone struggling to heal or for reiki practitioners and/or teachers wanting a more trauma informed approach to their practice and teachings.
relationship only to have the abuse escalate AFTER I left spending the next 16 years vying for my freedom from abuse.
Why I Wrote This Chapter
