Slam The Gravel Podcast: Fix The System Inside Out


Slam the Gavel welcomes Laura Bonetzky-Joseph to the podcast of Healing With Spirit and Healing Trauma Through Spirit.

In this episode I talk about
  • my domestic violence journey,
  • how I lost my virginity to a rapist at 15 years old
  • my journey through family court sanctioned abuse after I left my abuser
  • the unlawful incarceration by a Massachusetts family court judge who denied my right to a lawyer & tried to prevent medical care & attention to me
  • what I’ve seen change in the near 20 years I’ve been embedded in this systemic oppression
  • why understanding and learning about systemic racism and for us white folks to listen to BIPOC folks as well as Palestinian voices and how it is all interconnected … this is crucial, especially for white women…
AND
  • my abuse advocacy work,
  • my work as a T.R.A C. coalition member on DV legislation & policy in MA
  • my work helping survivors of family court abuse
  • my books & podcast and what they are about
  • Healing root issues
  • and what survivors need to focus on while in the fight for survival in the family courts.
and more.

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE HERE OR Watch Here

ABOUT LAURA:

Laura is a book author, podcaster, survivor and advocate. She is also a multigenerational intuitive and business owner of Healing With Spirit and is a member of Track Coalition in Massachusetts.

Since 2006, Laura has helped thousands of people take back their health and power by addressing and healing root issues. She is an experienced multi-generational healer & intuitive, crone witch, best-selling author, speaker, award-winning advocate, spiritual teacher, sacred activist, and survivor of domestic violence and sexual assault.

She’s apprenticed with an Osteopathic Physician for more than 20 years learning holistic health and preventative care and has also studied with teachers and lineage holders based in Japan, Canada and Greece.

Her clients are diverse and inclusive from various ethnic cultures, skin color, religious beliefs, sexual orientation, and socio-economic backgrounds.

In 2022, Laura published two books. She’s the co-author of “Feisty: Dangerously Amazing Women Using Their Voices to Make an Impact”. Her chapter, “#MeTooFamilyCourts”, highlights what it takes to leave a domestic violence relationship in a broken system that punishes you.

Her first solo book published in October 2022, “The Secrets To Healing: An Invitation To Healing Trauma And Other Root Causes of Chronic Illness Using the Japanese Reiki Gokai” weaves her personal story, her work, the science, and the teachings with nine client case studies.

Her books can be found on Amazon.

Laura currently sits on the Massachusetts domestic violence task force addressing legislation and policy for survivors of abuse. Also, Laura brings an authentic unique view with a unique talent and skill sets uncommon today.

“Triggers and Spiritual Medicine,” Laura’s podcast, can be found on YouTube, her website, and most podcast streaming platforms.

To Reach Laura Bonetzky-Joseph:  Linktree Link: https://linktr.ee/HealingWithSpirit


About Slam The Gravel:

Slam the Gavel is a podcast to discuss Family Court Issues, Support Court, Support-contempt conferences and hearings and Child Services issues. Advice on how parents can cope with these issues along with Parental Alienation. Based off the book, Dismantling Family Court Corruption, Why Taking The Kids Was Not Enough. This book can be found on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Kindle, Apple and Smashwords.dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.com Podcast music provided by MicTechMusic@yahoo.com

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DISCLAIMER The use of this information is at the viewer/user’s own risk. Not financial, medical nor legal advice as the content on this podcast does not constitute legal, financial, medical or any other professional advice. Viewer/user’s should consult with the relevant professionals for specific advice related to their own situation.

Trivia, Book Talk, FUNdraise, Survivor Support For Domestic Violence Awareness Month

*** UPDATE: Location Change due to schedule conflict with the Hingham Public Library 2.2 miles down the road to Healing With Spirit. ***


We are thrilled to host a book talk, shedding light on this important issue and offering perspectives on empowerment, healing, and resilience in support of Domestic Violence Awareness Month with local author of two books on the topic, survivor, and Hingham native, Laura Bonetzky-Joseph.

We encourage you to bring family, friends, and community members to this event as we come together to raise awareness about domestic violence.

By participating and engaging in this special event, you will not only support survivors but also contribute in making our community a safer and more compassionate place for everyone.

Gain a deeper understanding of the complexities surrounding domestic violence, its impact on individuals and communities, as well as the resources available for support and prevention.

Light refreshments offered.


Event FLOW :

Not necessarily in this order.

  • DV trivia game
  • Laura will be sharing her story, her journey and her experience working with others using these Japanese therapies to address root causes to trauma and chronic illnesses.
  • Address the pending legislation faced in Massachusetts, the 11 bills she testified before legislators in 2023. There are currently 70 pending bills addressing various aspects surrounding domestic violence and sexual abuse and exploitation.
  • Talk about the T.R.A.C. coalition that she is a part of,
  • what ACTION steps you can take today.
  • Q & A
  • Opportunity to sign books. Bring your copy or purchase a copy on the day of the event
  • and fundraise to support this cause if called but NOT required to join us

Please INVITE and SHARE this event with everyone you know. This is ONE action step you can take today to help us make the world a safer place for all.

We NEED YOUR HELP TO BRING AWARENESS.


About Laura’s Book

Laura’s latest book, The Secrets to Healing, explores the root issues to chronic illness, trauma, and address the elephant in the room on why we in the west are NOT taught these aspects to healing.

In this book, Laura shares her story and journey, what she has learned along the way through the decades, showcasing 9 client studies and bridging the science, data and spiritual based Japanese therapies.


About the Author:

Laura testifying before legislation in Massachusetts Summer 2023

Since 2005, Laura has been passionate about using her voice for that change after experiencing a broken system that failed to protect her from domestic abuse.

Over the years, she has spoken on various platforms, radio, and tv on the topic of unhealed trauma and abuse and how to address the broken system and heal root issues through spiritual based therapies.

She has a podcast called Triggers and Spiritual Medicine which debuts a new episode on the 1st Monday monthly. Click here for latest episodes.

In 2022, Laura joined the T.R.A.C. coalition in Massachusetts comprised of organizations, advocates, lawyers, and survivors to help address the growing coercive control and litigation abuse tactics through policy and legislation. This is a volunteer position that requires enormous amount of financial resources, time, energy, and commitment.

In 2023 alone, Laura has testified on 11 of the 70 pending domestic abuse or sexual assault related bills using her story and others she has helped throughout the years to create a safer healthier world for future generations to come.

She also has helped survivors of abuse navigate the family court system and teach them tools and skills to help them reclaim parts of themselves stolen by their abuser.

As a career, Laura is also the founder of Healing With Spirit based in Hingham that offers a variety of meditation classes, spiritual based therapies and wellness events since 2006. She is currently planning a Sacred Pilgrimage to Ireland in 2024 with a small intimate group of seekers.

Learn More Here


Why Make A Donation

Laura Testifying on the Coercive Control & Litigation Abuse Bill in Ma Sept 2023

Please consider making a donation to support this work. To date, I have funded this project alone in the last 5 years. Many well-intentioned groups are limited in HOW they can advocate due the grants they receive.

I have utilized publishing a book as an education tool that cost approximately $10k from start to finish including book launch, editors, publishers, etc.

I have started a podcast called Triggers and Spiritual Medicine that I earn NO money from to address the intersectionality of root issues and trauma that costs approximately $100 mo to produce.

The 11 bills I testified on cost me an estimated $5k in lost income due to taking time off from working to prepare, meet with legislators, and take time off NOT including cost of driving in to Boston or other expenses.

I have waited 15 years to see the movement we have going on now with legislators who get it and want to make a difference to organizations who get it and are moving towards these same changes, and with 70 pending domestic violence bills, my story is textbook.

I cannot fix what happened to me, but anyone who knows me and vets me out and tell you how dedicated and consistent I have been since the beginning.

The ONLY thing stopping me from taking this to a larger scale or seeing these bills through to the next phase of getting a bill passed in legislation is strictly financial due to the toll I was hit with this year.

Laura with 2 books she published in 2022 addressing the domestic violence “industry” and her healing journey over 50+ years

I am grateful on one end as I have worked hard for a LONG time, but it also is coming in all at once. This summer put me in a difficult financial position that without donations and financial support, I may not be able to see these bills through or may be forced to turn away folks who need help. I just want my bills paid is all and my ability to go to the Battered Mothers Custody Conference in April 2024. I am not looking for anything more at this time.

I am looking to raise $10k to cover me for the next 6-9mo so I can do this work as it is meant to be done. Please help me make it a reality.

You can donate via Eventbrite or you can donate here via PayPal.

You can also become a Patreon Member for a low as $5 a month to help support this work I am deeply passionate about and the impact I want to make.

I CAN do it with YOUR support.

TSM Episode 23: A One Mom’s Battle: Post Separation Abuse, Parental Alienation & Reunification Camps

Welcome to Episode 23 of Triggers and Spiritual Medicine podcast with host, Laura Bonetzky-Joseph. Join us for deep, enlightening, raw podcast episode on the topic of “A One Mom’s Battle: Post Separation Abuse, Parental Alienation & Reunification Camps” with the incredibly powerful, Tina Swithin.

Society believes that there are laws to protect victims of domestic violence from abuse. However, when victims, especially women, are faced with custody against abusers in family courts, laws seem to NOT apply in many cases.

Tina highlights the “FOR PROFIT” industry of the family court system that many times operates like a business. We as citizens believe, the system is supposed to operate in the best interests of the children, until we or someone we know goes into this “industrial complex”.

In this episode, Tina shares her lifelong journey in the family courts system first as a child and later in divorcing a narcissist.

In family court, children are used as pawns and property as if they were like a commodity traded on Wall Street, which is the very definition of legalized trafficking of children.

We highlight the following in Family Courts:

  • No accountability
  • No transparency
  • And judges have FULL immunity for their actions even if their actions deliberately cause the death of a child.
  • The lack of training of judicial officers or the deliberate training to discredit abuse in these cases.
  • The use of parental alienation as a tactic abusers uses to gain custody. Why victims of abuse should NEVER use this terminology as it furthers dark money.
  • The use of “high conflict” terminology to discredit abuse .
  • The use of “reunification camps” as a form of legalized kidnapping and brainwashing tactics to discredit abuse for MONEY.
  • the use of prisons to silence and punish victims for speaking out about abuse.  We talk about how DA’s punish and prosecute survivors when seeking help to save their own lives from abuse.
  • the monetization racket.

We highlight cases like Catherine Kassenoff, Anna Walshe, as well as Maya and Sebastian.

The Medicine Portion:

Tina goes on to share how she harnessed the medicine and power of her voice to create change through her social media platform, her “channeling” of her writing, her publishing her books, and her courses.

She talks about why it is important to NOT stay silent on what is happening surrounding the growing abuse in family courts.

She talks about her journey and why this path is personal for her, how her children were afraid of their father, what that looks like, and how she is using her voice to address the growing bigger issues surrounding the monetization of parental alienation and reunification camps in family courts.

She talks about the importance of language in the courts. Why survivors should be studying the system, describe the behavior, document and show patterns of behavior of period of time. Tina talks about why it is crucial to be able to communicate these patterns in a way that would register with the courts.

Because of the consistent work of Tina, there are some very BIG things are happening – movies, books, criminal investigations, and class action lawsuits.

In the end, Tina shares 3 actionable steps to be a change and how to create change.



ABOUT TINA:

Tina Swithin survived a “Category Five Divorce Hurricane” while acting as her own attorney in a high-conflict custody battle that turned her family’s life upside down for over a decade. While divorces are never easy, Tina quickly learned that a divorce involving a narcissist takes the term, “high-conflict” to a level that few can comprehend. To articulate what was happening, she took shelter from the storm by chronicling her journey in her (now) internationally recognized blog, “One Mom’s Battle.” Tina’s plight grew from just one mom to a village of tens of thousands who all share the same story. There were different variations and nuances, but the common denominator is toxic, high conflict individuals and post-separation abuse.

With all odds against her, Tina’s battle came to an end on August 30, 2019, when she successfully terminated her ex-husband’s parental rights. Tina has chosen to assume the title of survivor versus victim and has become an advocate for change in the Family Court System after seeing the flaws first-hand. Tina believes that the courts have lost sight of their primary focus, which should be the best interest of the child and instead, are too focused on parental rights.

Tina believes that children are suffering unnecessarily due to the lack of education on the front lines—and behind the judicial bench.

Tina Swithin is the author of Divorcing a Narcissist (series) and founder of the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program. Tina is a co-founder of the National Safe Parents Organization. Tina resides in San Luis Obispo, California with her husband and her two daughters.

Website: www.onemomsbattle.com


To learn more about Laura, her work, her social justice and sacred activist work, social media, podcast, books, etc visit: Laura Healing With Spirit | Twitter, Instagram, Facebook | Linktree


Additional Resources:


To learn more about the Triggers and Spiritual Medicine podcast or to become a guest, click here.

Episode 15: Writing and/or Publishing Your Story As Healing & Making Impact

Welcome to Episode 15 of Triggers and Spiritual Medicine podcast with host, Laura Bonetzky-Joseph. Join us for amazing podcast episode on “Writing and/or Publishing Your Story As Healing & Impact “ with Sierra Melcher, Founder of Red Thread Publishing.

Sierra shares her story of being silenced and how writing was her medicine that led her to create the all women run publishing company, Red Thread Publishing.  Sierra shares the common struggles that trigger adverse responses when writing a book and how to move through the flows. She also shares 3 actionable tips folks can do NOW whether one is looking to write as a form of healing practice or whether to write as an author.

ABOUT SIERRA:

Best-selling author, international speaker & educator, Sierra Melcher is founder of Red Thread Publishing LLC. She leads an all-female publishing company, with a mission to support 10,000 women to become successful published authors & thought-leaders. Offering world-class coaching & courses that focus on community, collaboration, and a uniquely feminine approach at every stage of the author process.

Sierra has a Master’s degree in education, has spoken & taught around the world. Originally from the United States, Sierra lives in Medellin, Colombia with her young daughter.

linktr.ee/redthreadpublishing

Instagram: www.instagram.com/redthreadbooks

Red Thread Writer’s Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/redthreadwriters

Blog: redthreadbooks.mykajabi.com/blog/bookschangetheworld


RESOURCES:


ABOUT TRIGGERS & SPIRITUAL MEDICINE PODCAST:

Real talk. Let’s address the elephant in the room to the growing “sickness” in our society, address root issues and provide sustainable solutions.
We hope by addressing the intersectionality and connect the dots like a web of many of society’s challenges, we can help others understand the trauma infection that impacts all areas of life – addiction, domestic violence, racism, homelessness, sexual abuse, chronic health issues, cancer, environmental issues, climate change and more.
In this NEW collaborative program, we hope by highlighting these infected areas and what they share in common, a new perspective of solutions, healing, and resolutions can be birthed.
Each episode addresses a certain trigger while offering the spiritual medicine with at least 3 tips or actionable steps our listeners can take and implement.
Vision: To break the unrecognized endemic of unresolved unhealed trauma & create sustainable systems for recovery, healing & empowerment.
Mission: To help others rediscover the power that lies within and to find that treasure buried in the depths of the shadows. To help them become their own superhero.
Please consider becoming a Patreon supporter to support our social justice initiatives https://www.patreon.com/HealingWithSpirit

Why Can’t Americans Heal From Trauma & Chronic Illness?


By Adrienne MacIain, Ph.D.


“Americans are becoming increasingly bankrupt–mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually–but it doesn’t have to be that way.” Laura Bonetzky-Joseph, author of The Secrets to Healing (click)


In Japan, the energy-healing practice of Reiki has been reported to heal everything from major illnesses like Cancer and autoimmune disease to mystery ailments like chronic fatigue, anxiety, depression, and stress. So why aren’t we seeing these same results in the U.S.?

Laura Bonetzky-Joseph, author of The Secrets to Healing: An Invitation to Healing The ROOTS to Chronic Illness and Trauma Through the Japanese Reiki Gokai (click), which just hit bookshelves this week, believes she has found the answer. 

As an experienced healer, multi-generational intuitive, speaker, podcaster, seeker, spiritual mentor, Jikiden Reiki® Shihan (teacher), social justice warrior, and a survivor of domestic violence, sexual assault, and litigation abuse, Joseph knows first-hand both the destructive power of trauma, and the healing power of Reiki when properly understood and utilized.

“Unresolved trauma is an unrecognized epidemic that many times is the root cause for issues such as chronic illness, cancer, pain, autoimmune disorders, and anxiety,” says Bonetzky-Joseph, “Over a number of years, I suffered from more than one of these conditions, until I discovered a better way to eliminate them from my life.” 

Laura’s journey to healing began when she started looking into aspects of her issues that the healthcare system couldn’t figure out. “For over 14 years,” she says, “I systematically implemented a spiritually based, holistic approach to my healing that literally saved my life—in ways that you might say defy all logic.”

There is a method, however, to this medical mayhem.

“There is a direct connection between stress and illness,” explains Bonetzky-Joseph. “Medical research has repeatedly shown us over time that two-thirds of all visits to family physicians are due to stress-related symptoms. This has worsened since the recent pandemic. Many people feel they are spinning their wheels, not getting better & searching for answers with no feeling of end in sight, spending a fortune on medical care that is bankrupting Americans at alarming rates, with symptoms getting worse in some cases.” 

That’s why she wrote this book. Because it doesn’t have to be that way.

“When we address the ROOT systems including the capitalism of ‘disease’ that is a traded commodity on Wall Street, we can learn NEW ways of accessing healing, recovery, empowerment, and become our own superheroes,” Bonetzky-Joseph reassures.

“In this book, I share with you my half a century long journey, the Japanese teachings I have learned along the way, Reiki stories, and why this powerful medicine, often not prized in a monetized culture, might be exactly what you are seeking.”

It is Laura’s hope that by addressing the capitalist healthcare system, the root issues of chronic illness and disease, that folks will not only find inspiration in these pages, but some healing, practical actionable steps, and reprieve. 

Weaving her own personal lived experience AND professional learned experience together, Joseph has created something that is vitally missing in our society, and more specifically in the Reiki industry, spiritual communities, and trauma fields. The Secrets to Healing is intended as a bridge between those gaps. 

“My work addresses the unspoken, untapped, challenges and pathways to reclaim our health, vitality and power,” explains Bonetzky-Joseph, “I am someone who has walked this path, trained with credible teachers and shared my work with others.”

The Secrets to Healing is an invitation back to self – an unpacking of our colonized mindsets that is blinding us from becoming our own superheroes of our story and reclaiming our life, health, vitality through the spiritual medicine of the traditional Japanese system of Reiki.

For folks struggling with cancer or chronic illness, this book may hold the answers to restoring wholeness that may be missing in their current care, yet is complementary to existing care. 

For folks who are survivors of domestic violence or sexual assault, this book may hold the answers to how to break the repetitive cycle of abuse and trauma, offer sustainable methods to heal the trauma manifesting as illness, or offer tools on how to present yourself more effectively when dealing with custody courts. 

For Reiki teachers, this book is a must-have resource book for every Reiki certification.

Laura Bonetzky-Joseph is here to help folks who suffer from a history of chronic illness, cancer, trauma, and/or abuse to address root issues, transform pain, bridge science, research and the practical magic so that they can experience sustainable healing and wholeness by rediscovering the body’s ability to heal itself and the power that lies within so that they can become their own superhero. Since 2006, she has helped thousands of people heal issues and restore wholeness – personally, mentally, physically, spiritually, professionally. 

Bonetzky-Joseph’s mission is to help others rediscover the power that lies within and become their own superhero by addressing root issues, transforming pain, bridging science, research and the practical magic of sacred, ancient traditions… with honor and integrity. She does this while also advocating for holistic health, domestic violence survivors, and policy changes. She is a bridge between the amazing modern advances of modern medicine with the ancient ways of healing and empowerment through rooted sacred spiritual practices. 

And Joseph practices everything she preaches. Even in the writing and publishing of this book, Bonetzky-Joseph has had to make use of her Reiki training.

“I have struggled with a lot of fear, writing this book,” she admits, “fear and anxiety surrounding all the lack aspects – lack of being seen, heard, and understood. Fear of retaliation for speaking my truth, of having my voice silenced once again. I had to put the teachings I preach to use to address my anxiety and fears of lack. I upped my own self-care strategies, put a team in place to support me (mentally, physically, and spiritually) who clearly understand my triggers and my somatic perpetuation of wanting to flee and go back into hiding again.”

But fear is far from the only obstacle she’s faced in the process of getting this book out into the world. “I have had to overcome the multitask of end-of-life care and subsequent passing of both my parents while also running my business, dealing with toxic family structures, moving, closing my father’s business and estate, and maintaining a healthy life work balance,” says Bonetzky-Joseph. 

“Triggers and CPTSD (Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) can be a beast, and can show up unannounced at any time. There is something strange that happens when the body reacts differently than the mind, like a two-year-old having a temper tantrum in the middle of the grocery store line. I have had to give myself grace when needed. I have had to push myself when it was needed. I have had to check myself on how much I am living what I am preaching and especially on the last precept – Do your duties fully – and contemplating on what that looks like in completing this book,” Bonetzky-Joseph confesses, “I have had to remind myself that if I want folks to believe in me, I need to believe in me better and stronger. I must believe in the medicine I offer more convincingly.”

Bonetzky-Joseph believes it is her extensive, intersectional training and dedicated practice that have allowed her to thrive and reach her goals despite the obstacles she’s had to overcome. And she wants these same results to be available to everyone.

“I believe in a world where universal balance is restored. When we can understand the intricate nature and power of the universe resides within us, we can restore our own innate healing and power. With that knowledge and understanding comes stewardship, great personal responsibility, and understanding that the balance of ALL life is needed for us as humans to become fully whole on a planet that sustains us.”

“If you can heal trauma,” Bonetzky-Joseph reassures, “you can heal anything.” 

Joseph offers spiritually-based integrative holistic health enrichment private sessions, workshops, groups, retreats, and guest appearances at our location or yours.


Here’s what her clients have to say:

“Laura Joseph, what can I say?? She’s just Awsum! She helped me in soooo many ways, from spiritual & emotional healing, I’ve been to her retreats (omg, life changing!), I’ve had sound healings, mediumship readings, reiki session, empath workshop, & even had training to practice Jikiden Reiki! There’s not much this girl hasn’t done! Not only has it been great to be a client, but I am especially grateful for the friendship & kinship that has developed from that as well!”  – Monica McCall

“Laura is truly one of a kind. Her knowledge and experiences she shared only enhanced my learning throughout the seminar. I look forward to practicing and evolving under her guidance as I take this incredible journey as someone who can now begin to give Jikiden Reiki. Thank you, Laura!”  – Maribel Carubia, Jikiden Reiki Training (click)

“I highly recommend it for anyone being told they’re ‘too sensitive,’ weighed down by their emotions or their environment, or feel as though they don’t fit in. Laura is excellent at what she does and she has knowledge, compassion, insight and understanding that is truly unmatched.” – Debbie Gillis

“It can be challenging to open up, be vulnerable in a group. The class felt safe & nurturing & it became increasingly easier to share personal experiences.”  – Jeannine Whitehead

“Without the help I have received here I do not know where I would be today or who I would be.”  – James Fennessy


To learn more or book a session, please go to: https://linktr.ee/HealingWithSpirit (click)

“Relax, your soul has your back.” – Laura Boneztky-Joseph

Episode #14: Surviving & Thriving After Coercive Control & Post Separation Abuse

Welcome to Episode 14 of Triggers and Spiritual Medicine podcast with host, Laura Bonetzky-Joseph. Join us for amazing podcast episode on “Surviving & Thriving After Coercive Control & Post Separation Abuse” with Erika Hull, Abuse Survivor, Life Management Consultant, Author, & Co-Founder of The CornHer Office.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Sometimes after we leave an abusive relationship, the abuse does not stop. Erika talks about her journey through a repeated history of abuse including coercive control, Family court issues and post-separation abuse that led her to healing and reclaiming her power back.

We each share 3 tips on what survivors can do NOW despite the actions of their abusers and offer additional resources including both of NEW books coming out October 2022 that are complementary to each other.

ABOUT ERIKA:

Erika Shalene Hull is a Life Management Consultant, Author and Co-Founder of The CornHer Office. After spending over 10 years, primarily as a Financial Development Director for a world-wide non-profit organization, Erika sought to lessen the gap between the challenges of working and parenthood, by leaving corporate America and becoming a full-time entrepreneur. With having to overcome numerous traumas during this time, including abuse, suicide of oldest child, and the day-to-day hardship of a crippling genetic disorder, she is courageously passionate about helping others rise above their own personal obstacles. From minimizing daily burdens, creating manageability and building confidence, through The CornHer Office, Erika provides methods, tools and resources delivering the life fulfillment clients seek, intending to impact women’s lives for the BETTER. When she’s not taking on life’s challenges, she’s v’logging, road trippin’ or drinking a cup of coffee with her husband and five children in Ohio.

Website: www.thecornheroffice.com     Book website: www.butthatsnotme.com

Contact information: erika@thecornheroffice.com

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES:

DomesticShelters.org: Educational information, hotline, and searchable database of programs and services near you.

Love Is Respect (National Dating Abuse Hotline): Offers young people a chance to chat online, call, or text with advocates. www.loveisrespect.org

National Domestic Abuse Hotline (800-799-7233): 24/7 hotline with access to service providers and shelters across the United States. http://www.thehotline.org)

The Quincy Solution by Barry Goldstein: https://www.barrygoldstein.net/books/the-quincy-solution

Feisty; Dangerously Amazing Women Using Their Voices To Make An Impact: https://www.amazon.com/Laura-Bonetzky-Joseph/e/B09QMVSW7Y

The Secrets To Healing – Healing with Spirit with Laura (laurahealingwithspirit.com)

ABOUT TRIGGERS & SPIRITUAL MEDICINE:

Vision: To break the unrecognized endemic of unresolved unhealed trauma & create sustainable systems for recovery, healing & empowerment.

Mission: To help others rediscover the power that lies within and to find that treasure buried in the depths of the shadows. To help them become their own superhero.

We hope by addressing the intersectionality and connect the dots like a web of many of society’s challenges, we can help others understand the trauma infection that impacts all areas of life – addiction, domestic violence, racism, homelessness, sexual abuse, chronic health issues, cancer, environmental issues, climate change and more. In this NEW collaborative program, we hope by highlighting these infected areas and what they share in common, a new perspective of solutions, healing, and resolutions can be birthed.

Book Launch Party & Soft Opening of NEW Space

After 20 years since Laura embarked on this journey and 10 years writing, it is finally happening. The 2nd book in 2022 (her 1st book) and her first solo book, will be released on 10/10/22.

This book takes a real honest look at how we address and heal the growing chronic illness and trauma rates through the eyes of a domestic violence and sexual assault survivor, Reiki teacher, wellness professional, and advocate with over 20yrs experience working in a medical environment & legislative policy.

Laura weaves her personal story, work, training, and social justice work in this must have book.

I assure you … there is no book on the market like it that addresses the root issues and solutions like she does through this lens.

This book also includes a special insert on Shintoism by our dear friend, Reiki teacher, mentor, and Vice Representative of the Jikiden Reiki Institute, Kyoto, Japan, Frank Arjava Petter.

ABOUT TICKETS:

The cost to attend is solely for the purchase of the book.

Every attendee registered will receive an autographed copy of “The Secrets to Healing: An Invitation to Healing Trauma and Other Root Causes of Chronic Illness Using the Japanese Reiki Gokai”

NOTE: If you have already purchased your book and would like to attend, please reach out via text message 857-880-0365 with a photo of you holding the book or receipt of purchase, and if tickets are still available, we will grant you a ticket at no extra cost – unless you wish to purchase an extra book as a gift.

Again, the purchase of a ticket for this event is for the book.

Light refreshments served.

Plus, we will be offering raffles prizes and gifts throughout the event.

This is a ticketed event due to space limitations & advanced book orders.

Due to immense interest in this event and book, we advise to purchase your tickets early to ensure you do not miss out.

We will also have limited copies of our first co-authored book, “Feisty: Dangerously Amazing Women Using Their Voices to Make An Impact” available for purchase as well.

To learn more about these books, services, podcast, social media and more, click here

Get Your Tickets Here

Testimonial With Dr. Adrienne McClain – Shifting Beliefs, Healing Trauma Roots, Dragon Magic

Unsure if working with Laura is right for you?

This recording was NOT planned as you can see in the video. Dr. Adrienne McClain offered to share in the raw what she experienced after 2 sessions working with Laura as she found them to be quite powerful.

In this brief 6-minute video, she shares:

  • Her experience working with Laura.
  • What she didn’t anticipate would happen.
  • What shifted that landed her a job offer and new clients.
  • Why to work with Laura.
  • What separates Laura’s work from others.
  • Why others should work with her.

To learn more about Laura’s work, social justice work, podcast and more scroll through this website or visit: https://linktr.ee/HealingWithSpirit

 

Triggers & Spiritual Medicine Episode #10: Trauma Informed Reiki Practices

Welcome to Episode 10 of Triggers and Spiritual Medicine podcast with host, Laura Bonetzky-Joseph and Trauma Informed Reiki Teacher, Michaela Daystar

TOPIC: Trauma Informed Reiki

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You are not going to want to miss this episode. In the end, we will share 3 things you can do to become a more trauma informed.

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ABOUT Michaela Daystar:

Michaela Daystar founded HeartScapes after 11 years of helping university students increase their capacity for social justice. At the intersection of self-reflection, spiritual practice, and social action, she teaches the system of Reiki as a pathway to understanding, healing, and expressing our true self, and adapts trauma-informed principles for Reiki practitioners. Michaela continues her studies of Reiki with the International House of Reiki and holds a master’s degree in Social Justice Leadership. www.heartscapesinsight.com


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ABOUT TRIGGERS & SPIRITUAL MEDICINE:

Vision: To break the unrecognized endemic of unresolved unhealed trauma & create sustainable systems for recovery, healing & empowerment.

Mission: To help others rediscover the power that lies within and to find that treasure buried in the depths of the shadows. To help them become their own superhero.

We hope by addressing the intersectionality and connect the dots like a web of many of society’s challenges, we can help others understand the trauma infection that impacts all areas of life – addiction, domestic violence, racism, homelessness, sexual abuse, chronic health issues, cancer, environmental issues, climate change and more.

In this NEW collaborative program, we hope by highlighting these infected areas and what they share in common, a new perspective of solutions, healing, and resolutions can be birthed. Click here for more information:

Addressing Grief, Trauma, Fears, Chronic Stress with Rooted Spiritual & Plant Based Medicines


A THREE Part Post – Morning Reflections in Nature On The State Of Society Questioning How Do We Move Forward – A Successful Case Study Involving the Transformation & Integration from Grief & History of Domestic Violence – Benefits of Blackberry & Burdock From My Morning Reflections- Tips for Triggers, Stress & Fears – Tips Around Food Scarcity- Why Work With Me


I do not know about you, the intensity that has been climaxing has been quite difficult to navigate no matter where we are in our lives. I sometimes like to write my processes and thoughts after certain experiences.

This morning I was reflecting on the sad state of our society and how on one level how hyper triggered & stressed folks are and on the other level how toxic so many folks are expressing their pains by projecting them onto vulnerable populations such as victims of domestic violence or sexual assault, homeless or low-income populations, folks with certain religious beliefs, and women. The growing misogynistic vitriol on women seems to be the most vile I have ever witnessed. It is sometimes hard to witness as if I am reliving the early days of the Burning Times of Witches or as if I am watching Chapter 2 of the Handmaid’s Tale play out.

Why am I sharing this? We can’t heal old wounds or create policy change by sticking our heads in the sand. I am not about band-aid approaches, because frankly we have seen how well those have worked out for us haven’t, we.

Humans in general are resistant to change and we are experiencing evolutionary times on so many levels simultaneously which can be difficult for the average person to adjust yielding lifetimes of lessons to be addressed.

The current energies of Saturn and Pluto retrogrades are amplifying this construct through at least October 2022 when Saturn stations direct. Pluto won’t go direct til 2023.

However, for folks who are struggling with chronic health or mental health challenges or implications as a result of trauma or faced with systemic oppressions, or folks who are faced with one adversity after another without the ability to come up for a breath – this can feel extraordinarily burdensome.

In this post I want to share a couple of experiences I have had this week in hopes it inspires us as a culture to SHOW UP better.

I personally like going into nature start my day and for some reflections. This morning was of no exception. I live on land of the original Massachusett & Wampanoag First Nations. It is rich in wildlife, nature, and medicinal plants – that some would call weeds.  There has been lots of incorporating herbal medicine this week in my life & in my work.


Client Story

Earlier this week, I spent a half day with someone in deep pain and surmountable grief. They are a survivor of past domestic violence where the system failed to protect the children now grown adults.  They thought their life was finally on track with a new marriage and stability in their life.

However, when they came to me the other day, they were struggling with immense grief-stricken trauma associated of losing a spouse and child in a short span of time compounded by the fallout afterwards and old wounds were opened and bleeding out.

They have been stuck in a downward spiral with their overall health for over a year now with little support structures in place, felt like they were about to break, and nothing they were doing was working.

After incorporating a multidisciplinary approach over several hours including:

  • spiritual coaching & guidance,
  • somatic trauma healing and recovery work,
  • a holistic health assessment,
  • outdoor nature therapy,
  • a customized herbal medicine plan including a custom herbal medicinal tea blend as shown here.

The next morning, they reached out to me to tell me their nerves & anxiety were calmed, a lot of their physical symptoms were not present, pain noticeably diminished, and had the best night sleep since they can remember … sleeping through the night without any additional medication or aids.

They are initiating new daily protocols to help themselves navigate moving forward.

Hearing all this make my heart jump for joy. Meanwhile thinking to myself, how do I share WHY folks need to consider these very approaches in their lives to break to toxic cycles they are stuck in.

So, when I was out for my walk in my very large diverse backyard this morning reflecting upon society, I struggled with the notion that how few Americans find value, or seek out THIS type of help with a seasoned experienced healer and that makes me sad.

Then I get the calls for help and guidance from folks. We do the work. We get results and I am reminded that folks are seeking this out – they are seeking an alternative way of healing – of being – of living – of working etc. and I put my ego in check and go back to work honoring my path and this sacred work.

We have a lot of work to do and the Universe if forcing us to evolve. Old ways of BE-ing, working, living, and how we relate to ourselves, each other, the world around us MUST CHANGE.

However, just like that my once heavy heart was lifted by the surrounding plant medicine around me this morning.  Like an inquisitive child, I discovered a new wild blackberry bush while I stopped in my tracks to admire this gorgeous burdock lavishly making her presence & medicine pronounced & loud.

From there, this post was born.


Blackberries

Blackberries are not just yummy. They pack a host of amazing health benefits.  Some of the benefits wild blackberries include:

  • low glycemic index – this means that is likely to spike blood sugar levels.
  • nutrient dense – such as Vit C, Vitamin K, and manganese
  • high in fiber – That’s a problem: A low-fiber diet has been linked to digestive problems like bloating, constipation, and stomach pain. And according to a 2013 study, not getting enough fiber may increase your risk for heart disease.
  • may boost brain health & prevent memory loss according to a 2012 study
  • one of the top 10 highest-antioxidant foods
  • a 2013 study showed anti-inflammatory & antimicrobial benefits in oral health and a reason to add blackberries to your diet.
  • May Prevent and Slow Growth of Cancer

and more … Here is a good source for more on blackberries for health


Burdock

The plant that led me to find the blackberry bushes was this gorgeous burdock – a plant we often “weed it out” as a nuisance, but it’s medicine is one of my favorites  for its support in liver health, promotes circulation and combats inflammation. Burdock root helps to strengthen the immune system and speed healing.  Some of the benefits include:

  • tonifies & “purifies” blood/liver
  • effective in removing toxins from blood/liver as proven in a 2010 Study
  • Nutrient dense
  • antioxidant rich including quercetin, luteolin, and phenolic acids
  • inulin rich – prebiotic that aids in digestion
  • according to many studies, it may inhibit certain growth of some cancers such as pancreatic cancer.
  • Strengthens the Lymphatic System
  • Natural diuretic
  • improves arthritis according to a 2016 study

and more …


Tips on addressing triggers & stress

1) Stop.

2) Pause.

3) Create space to see where the triggers & stresses are rooted … beyond the obvious story.

4) Allow yourself the gift of sleep, rest, and Process

5) Implement & increase self care … go for a walk, get outside, turn off the TV, take an Epsom salt bath, get a massage or reiki session, listen to soothing music, take a COLD shower, dance even if naked in your house.

6) Eliminate expenses that REALLY are NOT necessary

7) Remove toxic experiences, people, things

Consider seeking out a knowledgeable experienced healer, earth medicine expert, or herbalist to see what medicinal plants may be best for you.


Addressing food scarcity fears

1) Grow SOME of your own NOW … hydroponics have come a long way. So this CAN be possible even in an apartment setting.

2) Shop LOCAL – mom and pop food stores & farmers markets. Shopping local & supporting LOCAL farms are MORE sustainable & better for the planet

3) Watch waste … Americans waste enormous amounts of food daily. Buy fresh and use only what’s needed. Cut back … I get not everyone is doing this, but Americans DO throw out more food than other countries.

4) If you are in a position, SHARE with the elderly and folks who are struggling. I mention the elderly cuz this demographic rarely complains but often must choose between food, shelter, medical care.

5) Donate food to especially domestic violence shelters that are currently under funded with DV skyrocketing and victims trapped due to lack of financial means to leave & systemic misogynistic biases making leaving difficult


WHY WORK WITH ME:

Quite simply, I use a multidisciplinary approach that has a track record of getting results.

Since 2006, I have been offering spiritually based integrative holistic health enrichment with a subspecialty in somatic trauma healing and recovery.

Over the years, I’ve empowered thousands of people heal issues and restore wholeness – personally, mentally, physically, spiritually, professionally – by addressing root causes, transforming pain, bridging science, research and practical magic of sacred ancient traditions & spiritual medicines.

I am a published author, speaker, award-winning advocate, teacher, an experienced rooted healer with teachers based in Kyoto, Japan, seeker, intuitive spiritual mentor, social justice warrior, and a survivor of domestic violence and sexual assault, with over 15 cumulative years of experience in the field of healthcare.

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Laura