The Back Story
Yesterday I had a pretty deep conversation with a good friend of mine regarding the struggles to survive fleeing an abusive relationship where I lost my sense of self for over 20yrs. This in depth conversation brought to the surface certain pains and traumas from the abuses the victim part of myself would assume to forget.
However, in reflecting about this conversation and previous ones, it got me thinking about my path on where I was, where I am, and where I am going. I look back now through a different lens amazed how far I have come since I made that crucial decision to leave an abusive partner who displayed narcissist sociopathic tendencies that nearly killed me more than once. I am happy to say, his wish was not granted, and not literally buried six feet under.
The Healing Journey
I am still here to not only talk about it, but to share bits and pieces of my healing path to reclaiming my power back in hopes to inspire others on their healing journey.
Probably one of the decisions I made early on was to never doubt my gut or intuition again as it tried to warn me of the dangers that lay ahead at that time. One of the things that saved my life was my connection to spirit followed by the healing path.
I first had to learn how to trust again and have faith in the unknown which is not simple feat when dealing with the after effects of abuse especially “gaslighting”. I had been beaten down physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. So how do I learn to trust again so I can heal?
How Reiki Helped Me
By embracing Reiki in its full embodiment not only helped me regain sense of self, but my sense of purpose. It helped me to heal the past while staying present, and not let my triggers of the past cause worry or fear of the unknown. It was not easy and I still feel I am a work in progress learning, healing, and growing every day.
This process didn’t happen over night, but over the course of 11 years. I had to learn to surrender to the Universe, which is probably the most difficult task in the entire process. The mind/ego wants to shield and protect you from any repeats of what had happened to you in your past. It is like an loop constantly repeating itself that has to be broken in order to heal and move forward in your life.
I knew I could not trust the system, domestic abuse groups, family, community, and the like as the mighty power of a skillful abuser can sway anyone in their favor creating an avalanche of being re-victimized. So if I could not trust people, who could I trust? Well it was spirit after all that tried to save me from this fate and I ignored the signs. So I went back to my faith knowing I could trust Spirit. That started the surrendering process leading into my healing.
I started with meditation and started going to church again rediscovering myself in the process. The more I learned to trust in the divine, the more healing took place in my life, which led me down the reiki path. Receiving reiki and learning reiki was the single most best decision I made for myself as it not only changed my life, it saved my life.
You can not learn that after one class and receive your certificate. You must master Reiki completely and incorporate it into your life so you can BE REIKI. This process takes years of discipline to develop.
This year is the grand year of transformation, a nine year in numerology. It is the year of completion, and I personally look forward to fully and unequivocally shining in my own light at full strength once again. I wrote about the importance of this year in 6 Tips To Guide You Towards Soul-fillment in 2016 if you wish to read more on that topic.
Reiki is more than taking a one day class, receiving a certificate, and laying hands on someone. I think this is the greatest travesty of misconception of what our Western society believes is important. Reiki is so much more. It is a way of being and a way to self discovery back to soul. Our bodies are designed to heal themselves, so all we have to do is tap into that source energy. Reiki helps facilitate that. I have been practicing Reiki over a decade now, and even after all this time, I feel like I have so much to still discover about the magic Reiki offers all of us inside and out.
Healing trauma is not easy, but I am so grateful for the system of Reiki and all the teachers I have had along the way to guide me in my spiritual path to healing and self discovery.
For those who are struggling now or feel like you can’t see above water, please keep the faith. I remember days, where I felt like it was the end, and I am not only here, but I am beginning to thrive. You can too. I am here to help you best I can and so are so many other wonderful reiki healers.
Tips on Finding a Qualified Practitioner
- Make sure you find a qualified practitioner who has trauma informed care as part of their training.
- Make sure you find a practitioner who has been practicing Reiki for a long time as trauma has its own intricate needs.
- Ask questions about the Reiki practitioner’s training and belief system
- What system of reiki did they study?
- What was included in their studies?
- What level of Reiki have they completed?
- How long have they been practicing Reiki?
- Do they practice reiki every day? (My apologies as many reiki practitioners may disagree, I feel THIS is the most important question). If they are not practicing reiki every day, how can they possibly understand how to help you? This goes beyond just reiki, but understanding trauma and all its intricate components.
- What is their level of experience and training in working with people with trauma?
- How many clients have they used Reiki for healing trauma?
- Ask how they use Reiki in healing trauma.
I hope what I wrote helps someone out there in need who needs something to help them survive in order to thrive. Please share the love and compassion.
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