I was fortunate and grateful to be a guest on the podcast HEAL: Season 1 Episode 40 with Elizabeth and Brittany Phillips where I share my healing story from domestic violence and my upcoming 2 books (Feisty and Secrets to Healing) to be released in 2022.
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If you’re ready to rewrite all the rules and start thriving, just as you are, then Feisty is a must-read!
WARNING: This book is not for everybody. Well-behaved women rarely make history, so, check your good-girl card at the door. There is something even better waiting on the other side, if you dare venture.
Stories to inspire you to new heights of bravery, new depths of vulnerability, and new dimensions of femininity.
What does it mean to be feisty?
This collection of true tales of resistance and persistence in the face of historical oppression from cycle-breaking writers of all walks of life will defy your expectations, validate your experiences, and rally your inner warrior-woman.
Not only that, this book also teaches you how to:
My story is finally being published as a chapter in THIS NEW inspirational powerful collaborative book of powerful stories of women from all over the world.
The Title of My Chapter:
In this chapter, I shared my story of what it’s like to leave a domestic violence
relationship only to have the abuse escalate AFTER I left spending the next 16 years vying for my freedom from abuse.
I share how I was incarcerated WITHOUT being charged or convicted of any crime while also being DENIED my right to a lawyer to represent me.
I share my journey, struggles and recovery that led to where I am today and the work I do today professionally as a result.
I’m not gonna lie or sugarcoat this.
I am scared.
I am frightened.
I am anxious.
… BECAUSE my fears of retaliation are REAL … cuz they happened before as I write about in this chapter (which was very triggering yet empowering for me at the same time).
As of this past fall 2021, the escalation of my abusive ex to use the courts to harass, control and abuse with impunity have once again escalated making me wonder if I will ever be free. I am praying this new judge is able to see it for what it is and finally puts an end to all the abuse and grants my freedom.
Why I Wrote This ChapterI was asked to contribute to this amazing international collaborative book of powerful women with incredible stories.
This chapter started out as a way to share my story and the trauma I endured, how I moved forward, how I became empowered, how I wanted to use my story to inspire other survivors of abuse to NEVER GIVE UP. This was to be a lead in for the upcoming book I have been writing for almost 10 years now on healing the roots to chronic illness and trauma through a Japanese healing system.
I wanted to share one of the most traumatizing experiences of my life that the father of my children wanted to perpetuate repeated and relentless harm in hope to kill me while keeping his hands clean (as one police chief told me once) in hopes it helps someone else who might feel stuck, hopeless, disempowered by a broken system that may have failed them too.
The allowance of court abuse on survivors over 10 years AFTER leaving the abusive marriage ultimately led to my diagnosis of complex post-traumatic stress disorder that led to a host of physical health issues.
I intended this story to be shared in hopes someday, my children will know what I have had to go through to escape domestic violence in hopes to protect them (and failed) and that I NEVER gave up on them despite the maternal deprivation and trauma bonding they fell prey to.
However, after the actions taken by my abusive ex this past fall to resume his patterns of abuse in the court system, this chapter has become my plea for justice and freedom from abuse while offering FIVE tips on how to support survivors so we may break the cycles of unrecognized unhealed unresolved trauma that is plaguing humanity in a grand scale.
Thank you to Sierra of Red Thread Publishing for your vision to bring these
#Feisty stories to publication.
Click here to get your copy of FEISTY
NOW …
The courage to solidify my publishing team, complete the edits & publish my FIRST solo book despite all the threats I’m currently faced with. Projected release is slated for Spring 2022.
This book is about my story of healing the broken me, the prevalence of unaddressed, unhealed, unresolved trauma, and what to do about it, what is Jikiden Reiki, how can it help heal chronic illness, pain and trauma.
What is shared in this book is worth the weight in gold to anyone struggling to heal or for reiki practitioners and/or teachers wanting a more trauma informed approach to their practice and teachings.
STAY TUNED …
Triggers & Spiritual Medicine: Episode #2 with guest Lovern Gordon
TOPIC: Healing & Recovery from Domestic Violence.
Join us in the conversation about healing & recovery after Domestic Violence. Lovern shares her story of repeated domestic violence as shared in her Memoir “The Legacy He Left Me”.
Her story doesn’t end there. She is an inspiration to so many survivors of abuse from all over the world. It is not only what happened to her, but her recovery.
Lovern shares her struggles leaving and the shame that comes with it as well as her ability to leave and thrive. She shares her spiritual medicine with us giving us 3 things she did that was key to her recovery, healing, and thrive as well as to how to relearn to self love and what healthy love looks like.
Click on the video below to watch the interview.
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ABOUT LOVERN:Lovern Gordon is a two-time sur-THRIVER of domestic violence (a child witness until she was 15 years old and a 2-year, young adult relationship). Ten years after escaping, she subsequently became the Founder of Love Life Now Foundation, Inc. (LLN), where she used 2 back-to-back pageant wins to increase awareness around issue in 2010 and the following year, LLN was formed.
Today, she conducts DV Awareness Workshops worldwide, hosts events that raise thousands of dollars to benefit DV shelters and points people in the right direction for DV resources.
She is the author of the DV awareness memoir, The Legacy He Left Me and has appeared on numerous radio and television shows including: CBS This Morning nationally and NBC’s This is New England locally.
Print includes features on Huffington Post and Boston Voyager Magazine.
The Boston Celtics named her one of their ‘Heroes Among Us’ and she was featured as part of Instagram for Business’ – entrepreneur ‘togetHER’ minidocuseries for Women’s History Month.
Website: https://lovelifenow.org/
Lovern’s Book: https://www.thelegacyheleftme.com/
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This is a must watch or listen for any parent with guest, Ukumbwa Sauti who is an expert in all things men’s work, dismantling patriarchy, & conscious consent.
We talked about a recent incident locally where adults “innocently” published a photo of minor boys insinuating they were naked behind signs saying they will wash your adult cars for you.
We ask that you watch with an open mind through a different lens than maybe what you had before. We understand you might find this conversation triggering. We ask you to pause before jumping to reactionary mode.
This conversation is NOT to blame anyone, but to open a conversation about a topic that is typically silenced and how we, as a society, as a culture, have normalized certain unhealthy behaviors that can have detrimental consequences for generations to come.
Let’s change this narrative, shall we???
Considering the following stats per (NSVRC) :
Most survivors I’ve encountered self-shame because of imprinting placed upon them by a culture of abuse.
Let’s change this narrative.
In this episode we offer 5 things we can do now to begin that shift & BE a part of the solution.
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We’ll feature a different guest w/ each episode sharing experiences & solutions w/ the greatest epidemic of our times world – an epidemic of unrecognized unhealed unresolved trauma that is placing misguided burdens on our society, increasing rates of chronic illness, mental illness, & addictions & stressing an already taxed broken healthcare system ill-equipped to treat root issues because it is NOT profitable.
Our goal is to highlight & address the commonalities all these issues share that plague our society including:
By highlighting what all these issues share in common, we hope to create
In this project, we hope to offer
ABOUT UKUMBWA:Ukumbwa Sauti, M.Ed. is an educator, facilitator, speaker and consultant. His areas of work include his Men’s Work Initiative, Conscious Consent, anti-patriarchy, anti-racism, environmental issues, Indigenous spirituality and media studies.
Ukumbwa Sauti has taught cultural media studies engaging issues of race, sex and gender oppression, class, colonialism, modernity and technology. He has presented in academic, spiritual/cultural and community venues and taught classes on consent, sexual and intimate safety in sex-positive conferences and organizations for more than 15 years.
Ukumbwa currently runs an initiative called Men’s Work, engaging men and others in the process of interrogating and dismantling patriarchal privilege and power, toxic masculinity, misogyny and homophobia. He runs on-ground and online groups and events.
Ukumbwa consults with organizations and communities around issues of social justice, diversity and inclusion and sexual harassment.
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ABOUT LAURA & “MY WHY” (on this series specifically)I am a truth seeker & change maker. I highlight the shadows on topics most shy away from & invite difficult conversations on topics typically silenced. I’ve been this way for over 50 years.
As a professional healer, spiritual mentor, advocate & multiple trauma survivor (child abuse, sexual assault, attempted sexual abduction & domestic violence) who witnessed a lot & experienced my fair share of issues & my dedication spanning almost 20 years in healing the roots to the broken me, I see what is broken.
I’ve learned what works & what does NOT and I am here to share what works through the muck of what does NOT. Together let’s break the cycle of the continued perpetuation of unresolved unacknowledged unhealed trauma for a healthier world for all.
The energies these past couple weeks, months, and years have been increasing in the intensity of change, integration, spiritual growth, and discernment.
Are you feeling the growing shifting waves of energies? What a ride so far huh?
I am NOT sure if this post is just for me to take stock of where I am, where I was and where I am headed or if this message will resonate with you and inspire you in some way.
With all that’s unraveling, shifting, disrupting, up-leveling, I’ve learned one string of things over the last 16yrs since THIS journey began for me after the struggles of leaving a domestic abusive marriage … that is to
Who I have become is thanks to the connection to spirit & spiritual medicine I have learned to embrace in my life and in my work – over many decades.It is the one thing I see missing in today’s “modern colonialist consumerist culture”.
What is missing … is the link to the divine connection to the spirit of life, its wisdom and its medicine.
I think the why will need to be answered another day as that’s a little more complicated rooted with weavings into patriarchy, systemic oppression, colonization, and control.
I believe the fundamental story in movie Avatar eloquently showed us if you can get passed the sci-fi box office plot. I always wondered if the movie was released prematurely as its message is needed NOW.
We do NOT have to work harder.
We do NOT need to go back to school and get another certificate or degree.
We do NOT have work ourselves into the grave.
We just need to tap into the infinite wisdom of the spiritual world. Think I am nuts?
We all have gut instincts that have helped us save our child from something or to close a sale or to hit some mark successfully.
We have all experienced this to some degree. Some call it alignment. I see those instincts connected to this same spiritual world I am speaking about.
But first, let me share with you a glimpse of my 2020 year and how I am moving forward.
The year 2020 started out to be the best year in my career and personal life since I left my abuser in 2005 (who near destroyed me). I was on par to have the best year of my career, looking to expand my office, hire my first employee, and work towards more professional education. While working with professionals and state agencies to make this all happen and to become whole in my own trauma recovery & healing, I was fortunate to have qualified for a grant for an addictions counseling certification program.
Like many others who suffered the wrath of 2020, I am still recovering from the string of unfortunate events that included …
I share my struggles, my victories and journey with you to keep it real and hopefully the words and inspiration I speak on these pages will inspire someone. I walk this path with you NOT just talks about it.
Why Spiritual Medicine Is Needed NOW More Than EverWhile all these human events occurred like a sequence of hurricanes that pummeled the shores one after another before the shorelines had time to recuperate, I never lost sight of my divine spark within.
Did I question my faith, my purpose, or my life?
YES. Of coarse, I did.
That is called being HUMAN.
However, understanding that my soul – the divine presence within me – has a greater wisdom and knowledge than me to guide me in this current storm was critical. It is the ONE thing that keeps me balanced, centered, focused, healthy, and ON PURPOSE.
All while STILL showing up in this hurricane we all experienced in 2020.
This connection to the divine within is a skillset that has systematically been stripped away from us through systems of control like governments, corporations, and formalized religions.
The spirit world can NOT be controlled, monetized or tamed. The spirit world just is. It is BIGGER than the human construct or human consciousness. As history has shown us, these systems of control are threatened by its medicine that is offered, but that is changing NOW.
These powers are losing control NOT by rebellious humans acting stupid and irresponsible, but my the Universe itself.
I am human that still has human experiences regardless of my spiritual development. By February 2021, I was a nervous wreck. Why?
I let my head get in the way temporarily trying to force things to happen while beating my head against the wall. Sound familiar?
So instead, I stopped.
I paused.
I listened to the whispers of the divine within.
What I heard from the spirit realms was that 2021 was an integration year for me – a pause year – a clearing out year – a rebalancing year.
Any project I want to launch NOW or attempt to launch now will be met with obstacles. I need to focus on clearing out the rest of the “clutter” and build a MORE solid foundation than the last one and come out banging in 2022.
So I sighhhhhhed.
I stopped and paused.
I put together an action plan.
I worked my personal numerology and my astrological signs with what I saw collectively energetically for 2021 and as I forecasted earlier this year and said OK.
So I decided it is time to switch gears. What do I do NOW?
I have been strengthening my systems and foundations.
I have been calling in and seeking out authentic solid sustainable partnerships, while listening to my soul like a GPS to guide me on where to go and which turns to take.
Are you finding yourself in a similar pattern?
There is sooooo much polarity and division happening here in the USA and globally it is like watching a bunch of parentless children running around aimlessly without guidance, self discipline or moral fortitude.
As we continue to grow and evolve, please BE gentle with yourself AND others.
Many of our fellow humans are stuck in fear and struggling with trusting in spirit or letting go of the egoic mindset. Be aware of this when it creeps in.
1.BE aware that our thoughts may NOT even be our own, but part of the collective consciousness.
2. BE aware that some of what is surfacing is OLD stories and old traumas that were stuck in
the soil we reside
the blood in our veins and electrical circuitry from our genealogy – aka generational trauma
the spirit of our soul from our past karma and past lives
in the mind and bodies of our own past traumas
3. It is important to build a strong relationship with the diving presence within – soul – spirit – in order to have the skillset to discern what is ours, what is NOT, and what is our contribution to it.
If you think you already have it, you do not. Build a stronger one.
4. Remember to
Stop.
Pause.
Choose what action to take next.
5. Above all, please
BE kind
BE compassionate.
BE the solution the world needs.
As I wrote in my 2021 energy forecast, this is a year for change. It is a year for creating more balance between the human ego material world and the spiritual world.
6. It is imperative we find a way to shed the colonized mindset that has been cultivated and bridge in the necessary spiritual medicine & cultivate a relationship with Spirit once again honoring what the Universe is requiring of us in this time and space.
Thank you for coming to my TedX talk
With appreciation,
Laura
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I did it. Say whaaaatttttt?
After partaking in another Patreon as a member with strong social justice goals, and watching the benefits unfold, I finally created a Patreon account to give you a better virtual experience, expand our virtual reach, offer exclusive specials and offers while broadening my social justice goals that are so important to me.
I want to share with you more about myself with you. So, I would be honored & grateful if you could take a moment and read my WHY I launched on Patreon.
Let’s join forces AND BREAK The CYCLE of the Perpetuation of Unresolved Unhealed Trauma TOGETHER.
To be honest ….
I am a bit Nervous.
Excited.
Anxious.
AND that is all ok.
I am putting the trust and faith in this journey and allowing it to unfold as it needs to.
Here is the dish … It is a wonderful subscription service for content creators and in my case content creators with a social justice or social impact mission in mind.
What is unique about this platform, it lets people financially support and reward content creators — such as podcasters, writers, and YouTubers — through a monthly subscription.
Creators can set up multiple membership tiers with various rewards so each subscriber can choose the amount of money they feel most comfortable giving to a project and in my case – healing the perpetuation of unhealed unresolved trauma that is plaguing our society.
I am new to learning how all this works and working on building a team to make my dreams and missions come to light so I can show up more effectively and more impactful for YOU.
Me doing THIS work is and always has been about BE-ing of greater service to the community & our Mother Earth.
Like everyone else, I am learning HOW to show up BETTER to meet that soul journey mission.
If you decide to become a patron on Patreon, you become active participants in the work I am doing while supporting a cause we all love and NEED especially during these challenging times where the trauma epidemic is running wild like an uncontrolled unchecked avalanche or a volcano that is about to explode.
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I have so much love and appreciation in my heart for all your support in my journey.
Thank you.
Laura
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I am grateful and honored to have been invited to be on Laura Cowan’s Empowerment Hour radio show.
Laura Cowan is an Award Winning Speaker, Educator, Radio Personality/VoiceItRadio & DV Advocate who has been a featured guest on national tv shows such as the Tamron Hall Show. You can learn more about her here: www.lauracowanstory.com
PLEASE
Join us THIS Monday at 6pm.
SHARE this offering with loved ones or anyone who could benefit.
For those checking this out, I met Laura a couple years ago while I was volunteering as a moderator for the National Domestic Violence Conference sponsored by National Coalition Against Domestic Violence where she was an incredible powerful speaker talking about her incredible journey surviving domestic violence.
I was instantly drawn to Laura and her beautiful energy. She’s a powerful speaker and radio personality.
If you are struggling right now, please join us.
If you are a survivor of abuse, please join us.
If you just need extra support right now, please join us.
♡ our shared healing journeys from abuse,
♡ my upcoming book on healing the roots to chronic illness & trauma through a Japanese healing system,
What I will be sharing will give you a glimpse into my upcoming virtual classes on healing trauma whole-istically through Spirit:
Via: Zoom and Facebook Live
In case you missed the LIVE broadcast on Monday, November 9, 2020, here is the recording from the Laura Cowan Empowerment Hour Show where we talked about healing and empowering survivors of abuse & trauma.
Laura Cowan is an Award Winning Speaker, Educator, Radio Personality/VoiceItRadio & DV Advocate who has been a featured guest on national tv shows such as the Tamron Hall Show. You can learn more about her here: www.lauracowanstory.com
I met Laura a couple years ago while I was volunteering as a moderator for the National Domestic Violence Conference sponsored by National Coalition Against Domestic Violence where she was an incredible powerful speaker talking about her incredible journey surviving domestic violence.
I was instantly drawn to Laura and her beautiful energy, strength, and power.
In this episode, we chatted about our stories, healing, trauma, the broken system and how to heal the “broken me” after a series of abuses – child abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence, and systemic oppression.
If you are struggling right now, please check out this episode.
If you are a survivor of abuse, please listen in.
If you just need extra support right now, this is sure to be inspiring.
Would love your feedback on this radio show episode.
I am grateful and honored to have been invited to be on Laura Cowan’s Empowerment Hour radio show.
Laura Cowan is an Award Winning Speaker, Educator, Radio Personality/VoiceItRadio & DV Advocate who has been a featured guest on national tv shows such as the Tamron Hall Show. You can learn more about her here: www.lauracowanstory.com
PLEASE
Join us THIS Monday 11/9 at 7pm (EST)/6pm (CST).
SHARE this offering with loved ones or anyone who could benefit.
For those checking this out, I met Laura a couple years ago while I was volunteering as a moderator for the National Domestic Violence Conference sponsored by National Coalition Against Domestic Violence where she was an incredible powerful speaker talking about her incredible journey surviving domestic violence.
I was instantly drawn to Laura and her beautiful energy. She’s a powerful speaker and radio personality.
If you are struggling right now, please join us.
If you are a survivor of abuse, please join us.
If you just need extra support right now, please join us.
♡ our shared healing journeys from abuse,
♡ my upcoming book on healing the roots to chronic illness & trauma through a Japanese healing system,
What I will be sharing will give you a glimpse into my upcoming virtual classes on healing trauma whole-istically through Spirit:
Via: Zoom and Facebook Live
If we look at the state of our society in 2020 in the United States of America, we might question, “how did we get here?”.
After the Spanish flu in 1918, Rockefeller discovered that humans and disease could be traded as a commodity on Wall Street. As a result of this colonized model, Americans in general are now suffering unprecedented increasing rates of
Since March 2020 when COVID shut our country down. I began offering extra support, spiritual medicine and meditation to the community 3x a week in our FB group. I am witnessing A LOT.
I have also launched polls via social media, worked with clients individually while elsewhere witnessed very heightened and triggered responses plagued with assumptions, toxic tongue, and weakening immune systems.
So what do we do about this?
As an empath, intuitive, seer, truth finder, healer, medicine woman, educator and trauma specialist in me, I began to witness some collective patterns.
Could there be a solution?
In this video, I share
I share some very vulnerable things in this video about my journey not for sympathy but to let you know I GET IT and I have got skills to help you too.
Culturally, we have turned what could be powerful negative emotions into an addictive toxic positivity and spiritual bypassing. We have become a culture of avoidance, addiction, distraction as a form of oppression, while blinded on seeing a way out and a path to wholeness.
Word have spiritual power that affect our physiology more than we really know or understand from a scientific standpoint.
If what we say can affect us, then HOW we say it affects us even more.
That is what makes gaslighting so effective to create harm, but why haven’t we mastered the power of the word to empower us? Learn what is missing and how to harness this simple power to breakthrough imaginary walls and empower our very BEing.
We will use some very simple Japanese concepts rooted in Shinto teachings. There is a reason why Japan did NOT have a written language until Buddhist was imported in 4th century.
Words can heal or words can harm!
You may know this, but is your reality matching what you think you know?
This is the most widely known concept, but the most misunderstood.
Shift the power of the word and shift the energy that is driving it. Bring clarity into the problem and identify HOW you can move towards an effective solution.
Learn what is missing and how to harness this simple power. THIS is the power that Ruth Bader Ginsburg mastered that enabled her to win five our of six supreme court cases.
Are you ready to learn the secrets of what you may be missing in this super power?
Learn the million dollar question when told to just “let it go”. In this class, learn HOW to let go and move on.
This is a step I witness most folks frequently wanting to avoid, escape from, or numb ourselves from. Learn why this is a crucial step that is needed and why processing our junk effectively matters.
It is important to undue the toxic oppressive cultural conditioning of the way we have been taught to misuse these powers in ways such as.
By facing this shadow aspects of these power, we can harness these powers effectively and create the shifts we need with more joy in our hearts.
Are you ready to own your power?
Are you ready to take the next step to learn HOW?
I have spent the last 15 years looking to heal the broken me searching for the right seasoned rooted teachers that span the globe. THIS is important because I have been witnessing another phenomenon of spiritual addictions over the years as a way to avoid doing the work to heal, elevate or create necessary changes in our lives aka spiritual bypassing that is leading to our chronically sick culture.
I have walked this path NOT just talked it.
I have understood that value and power of the undoing, healing, letting go, processing, languaging, pausing, and more. This is personal to me. Maybe this momma bear does not want to see the kind of suffering I am witnessing and wants to share a BETTER WAY of EXISTING.
Are you ready to learn how to harness these powers for empowerment and growth?
I am still in the planning stages of this offering.
Click here to stay in the loop as these classes unfolds and for special offers. You may also join our Facebook group to also stay in tapped into what is happening with this launch.
I look forward to sharing the wisdom, lessons, and power behind it all and most importantly the HOW through a virtual format to including experientials and meditation.
Many courses share with you the what.
I want to share with you the HOW.
Will you join us?
