Non-Traditional Valentine’s Day Ideas for Loved Ones Living or In Spirit

Happy Valentine’s Day or is it?

Like any other Americanized holiday, this holiday started out as one thing based on religious and/or spiritual celebrations that later become a commercial machine promoted by big corporations selling you a distorted idea that romance comes in the form of buying THINGS.

The commercialization of this holiday has conditioned us to FORGET the origins of where this day originated. This is a call back to the ancient ways.

In this post, I will share the following in hopes we redefine in healthier ways to share this holiday every day:

1. A Brief History of Valentine’s Day

2. Valentine’s Day Ideas for Loved Ones LIVING

3. Valentine’s Day Ideas for Loved Ones in Spirit Form

Where did the idea of Valentine’s Day Come From?

One of 10 hearts stumbled upon a walk mid February 2019

According to Wikipedia:

“St. Valentine’s Day “originated as a Christian feast day honoring one or two early Christian martyrs named Saint Valentine and, through later folk traditions, has become a significant cultural, religious, and commercial celebration of romance and love in many regions of the world.

There are a number of martyrdom stories associated with various Valentines connected to February 14,[4] including an account of the imprisonment of Saint Valentine of Rome for ministering to Christians persecuted under the Roman Empire in the third century.[5][6] According to an early tradition, Saint Valentine restored sight to the blind daughter of his jailer.[7] Numerous later additions to the legend have better related it to the theme of love: an 18th-century embellishment to the legend claims he wrote the jailer’s daughter a letter signed “Your Valentine” as a farewell before his execution;[8] another addition posits that Saint Valentine performed weddings for Christian soldiers who were forbidden to marry.[6]

The Feast of Saint Valentine was established by Pope Gelasius I in AD 496 to be celebrated on February 14 in honour of Saint Valentine of Rome, who died on that date in AD 269.”

Later the holiday became associated with romantic love.

Valentine’s Day For Loved Ones Living:

Please consider less commercialization of this day and make this day an EVERY day occurrence. If we have learned anything over the past couple years, it is to love and cherish those we love, for one day they just might not be here .

Here are some NON-conventional Valentine’s Day ideas which could also be used for weddings, anniversaries etc:

  • Get a couple’s massage, reflexology, reiki session or the like.
  • Write a letter to your significant other and list the number of ways you love them in your life by the number of months or years. One year, I wrote a note to my loved one and had it beautifully dressed up stating 52 reasons why I loved them.
  • Hire a personal chef to come to the house and cook for you a HEALTHY meal catered to special dietary needs. This is important to NOT learn ways to eat food that heal you that you love versus eat foods you love but poison you.
  • Create a photo album in the same manner you would the letter to serve a reminder on the days you argue to help bring you back to what is really important.
  • Fix that light, outlet, washer, etc or finish that room that is unfinished – Nothing says love more to the other than completing tasks you said you were going to complete because it makes them happy.
  • hire a house cleaner for the day to help the spouse or partner who maybe be overwhelmed with chores, grief, life stress etc. Having a clean house that is tidied up reduces stress. This also helps you recognize a need the other has without asking.
  • Hire an organizer to help you reduce clutter – again, this helps the stress and overall energy of the environment.
  • Need to change your diet? Hire a nutritionist to work with both of you so you can be healthier versions of yourself for yourself and your partner.
  • If the love of your life identifies as a woman and loves to read, you might want to consider getting her the newly released book Feisty: Dangerously Amazing Women Using Their Voices To Make An Impact (click here). What a wonderful way to show your heart by thinking about the women in your life this book will inspire and empowered.

FINALLY, if you missed my 2022 psychic energy forecast (click here), check it out as this is a 6 year in numerology – a VERY relational year especially with yourself, inner child, spirit FIRST before your partner.


Valentine’s Day For Loved Ones In Spirit:

So many have suddenly lost loved ones in the past two years. When we are young, we have this belief that if we live a certain way and be a certain way, we will live a long life.

That has NOT been true in recent years. I have seen countless children, young parents, and even young grandparents NOT living to so called ripe old age and suddenly passing.

Here are ideas to help you through your grief and/or celebration of your love for your loved one.

Supplies to have:

1. White candle

2. Paper and pen to write

3. lighter/ matches

4. dried flowers  — or purchase live ones and dry them in the air or on the lowest setting on your stove. If you dehydrate them in your stove, make sure to separate the petals and leaves for faster drying times. Make sure the dried flowers are NOT perfumed too as that releases harmful chemicals in the air.

5. music that resonates for you

6. any photos or items you wish to include in the ceremony

7.  Any other offerings you with for the fire – such as dried rose petals, dried lavender, dried cedar, tobacco, or the like

If you have trouble finding any of these items, you can try seeing your local herbalist, apothecary, organic food store (tea section) etc as organic teas may have the ingredients you need in a pinch

Ritual or Ceremony

1. FIRST, set an intention of what you are wanting to create.

2. create a little bit of a sacred space or alter setting using the flowers and items you want to include.

3. If you have a fireplace, fire pit, or caldron, – basically any safe burning container – place offering at the bottom to be burned. While doing so, create an intention, blessing, and prayer.

4. Get the white candle and light it as you are doing this and place that in the center the altar for now and when time, move to the fire pit if large enough container to burn with the items as an offering. If NOT, let the candle burn down safely next to the offering.

5. write a note or letter to your loved one in spirit. Pour out your emotions on paper however they may be. Ther is no right and there is not wrong.

6. Once complete, lightly fold the letter (need air to pass through for burning) Seal the note with wax from the candle.

7. Bring the note and any other offerings to the caldron or fire pit etc and lay on top of the offerings.

8. Say a prayer or just talk to spirit for guidance to bring this offering to the loved one you are seeking.

9. When ready, burn the note and offerings in the fire pit and release them to the spirit plane.

10. Say a closing prayer in gratitude.

11.  Make sure fire dies out safely- do NOT extinguish it.

I hope these tips help you shift into a new way of celebrating holidays that have lost their meaning over the years.

It is time to change this for stronger more rooted connections.

Please let me know in the comments if this post helps you in any way.

Be well.

With appreciation,