Learning the Art of Non Attachment
Since 2016 began, we have been pushed to extremes, prodded, and forced to examine our inner selves and workings. What I see is that we’re being forced to address the idea of attachments and the art of learning to detach. We build attachments as human beings to people, places, and things.
Our human ego builds emotional attachments and feeds on them. The big struggle I am seeing with many of us right now as we adjust to all the downloads and cosmic upgrades, is learning to let go of those attachments and trust in the process. This doesn’t mean that you stop caring or stop doing certain things. It simply means removing the emotional attachments.
Detachment vs Non Attachment
There is a difference between detachment and non attachment. In this context of this post, according to Miriam Webster Dictionary, detachment is 1. the action or process of detaching : SEPARATION
2. indifference to worldly concerns : ALOOFNESS
3. freedom from bias or prejudice
In the same context, Mirriam Webster Dictionary defines non attachment as lack of attachment (as to worldly concerns).
Early in healing path, I felt what I was writing here was about “detachment”, but the deeper my healing and growth got, the more I realized it is NOT about detachment, but NON attachment.
I began to see how detachment can lead to “disconnection”. That is NOT what we are striving for as that can be unhealthy.
According to Science Daily, it has 2 meanings.
- “In the first meaning, it refers to an inability to connect with others on an emotional level, as well as a means of coping with anxiety by avoiding certain situations that trigger it; it is often described as “emotional numbing” or dissociation.
- In the second sense, it is a type of mental assertiveness that allows people to maintain their boundaries and psychic integrity when faced with the emotional demands of another person or group of persons.”
In Psychology Today, Nonattachment was defined as “what occurs when we can let go of the need to be in dogged control of what is occurring and can reduce our demands on the present moment to be any way in particular.” It is much different than “detachment”.
This is where I feel I must say how much language matters. I am still working on THIS concept and understanding how it impacts us and can define us. But, a topic on languaging is for another day. Let’s continue on.
The Art of Learning Non Attachment
In Buddhism, the concept of attachments is simple. We create attachments in our attempt to control our life and experiences based on certain belief systems we have learned along the way.
“Non attachment is aligned with psychological maturity and insight into the ever-changing nature of experience and the futility of trying to control it. Non attachment is not a passive or apathetic quality, it does not require the renunciation of life or moving to a cave in the Himalayas. Rather, non attachment involves doing whatever would normally drive you, just without fixation and the accompanied rumination and worry about getting everything right, or adhering to the societal- or self-imposed expectations about what your life should be like.” (Psychology Today)
The art of learning to healthily detach oneself from people, places, and things, has proven to be a undaunting task for sure as we begin to question everything and everyone in our lives. We even begin to question our very existence and path. Are you experiencing this yourself? I’d like know, and I’m sure others would too. Please share your experience in the comments below.
We have been shown how strong the will of ego can play on our mind, body, and spirit and wreak havoc in the process hindering progress of our soul growth. But really, is it hindering the process or is all of this part of the evolution of our soul?
Once the illusions are peeled away, our truth is revealed. How scary it is when driving blind in the darkness, but how liberating it can be when you can see the light again from a different view?
Just like we wake up every morning, we brush our teeth everyday. We eat everyday to fuel our body, mind and spirit. Our body eliminates waste every day removing toxins that no longer serve us. We must also exercise the art of letting go and non attaching from those situations, people, places, and things that are holding us back from our spiritual path and soul growth. This is where learning to master presence matters.
We are a part of a larger consciousness. As a society, many feel we can control anything and everything. However, in reality that is ego creating a false sense of reality. When we choose to decide to let go of control, partner with source energy, you just might find everything else in your life improves … home life, relationships, work, etc.
Why do we expend so much energy into holding onto attachments that no longer serve are highest self? It is a question I have been asking myself repeatedly over the last month.
Is it because we know we have a lot of toxic waste to dump, and just like Mother Earth using floods, hurricanes, and other storms to clean house, sometimes it gets a little too mucky and dirty for us face? This is despite the fact, we know at the end of every storm, you reach the pristine soil ripe for planting those seeds you wish to flourish. You cannot plant heirloom flowers in toxic soil. We must clean it up and start amending it to get what we do want.
As a result, many of us are experiencing huge purges especially of old emotional traumas and pain. If you are part of society resisting this, I pray for you. You are the group experiencing the most pain right now. Law of attraction teaches us that resistance is futile and as above, so below.
I know I personally have had my symptoms heighten or worsen include:
- sleep disturbances,
- PTSD triggers,
- heightened anxiety,
- voice issues,
- ringing in the ear,
- lung and breathing issues,
- vocal cord issues,
- lack of appetite,
- and increased thirst.
So you see you are not alone. We are all one. We are each other’s brothers and sisters.
This Mornings Meditative Walk Experience
As I was doing my meditative walk this morning thinking about this topic of detachment and my journey this year so far. I stumbled upon first a cardinal feather followed by a turkey feather.
If I look at the coincidences of time which today’s date February 5, 2016 at approximately 9am, I can study the numerological message of “Stay balanced and positive. That cycle you wish to change will be ending shortly”
Both feathers are also signs from my spirit team, angels, and source energy aka soul that we are on the right track. Again, another confirmation. It’s a message to help us stay focused on the path that we are trying to create and have faith that all good things are coming to us.
What do I do to stay on the path without losing my mind?
Remember, when we can let go of toxic attachments in our life, our life changes.
I practice the art of appreciation, gratitude, and forgiveness every day. I meditate and practice Reiki every day. I have a set of affirmations posted on sticky notes on my bathroom mirror that I cite every day. I have healthy relationships with my core friends who support me and are there for me without criticism or judgments. Many of us have toxic family members and friends. How is that working out for you? I do my best to avoid processed and non GMO foods. I get into nature and ground.
Remember, it’s always darkest before dawn. Bad times never last. So focus on memories of previous good times you have had to help you through the bad times.
And as a constant message from my spirit team, angels and soul have been delivering to me consistently for weeks now, “trust that you’re so has your back. Let your soul light the way, and you just follow.”
With light, love, and appreciation,
Healing With Spirit
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Letting go feel like abandoning my dreams. My hopes. Even tho I know I must detatch or unattach, it feels wrong. That the people Im detaching from are connected to my soul. To let it go, stay present and not think about/worry about what I must do in detaching, can be overwhelming. As much as I know the reasons why, when it feels wrong deep in my soul, it is more than difficult. It is torturous.